[swissloveone]

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[bensabath]

....May Allah restore order in your family and ease your difficulties, bad times come to pass bro, You are the youngest thats why you are taking it a bit hard, the elders will inshaAllah work something out....

[OShellszz]

everyone.

My Family is disintegrating. Everyone is fighting with each other. We all have multiple loans and debts. Nobody is thinking logically. I am the youngest so nobody hears me out. My Career is nowhere. Other relatives not helping much. Lots of things going on that I dont wanna mention. I m making lots of Dua. But please make Dua for me and my family. Please. I m in tears.

Praying for you and your family from the depth of heart. Have heart, IA, Allah Sub-hanahu wa Ta'ala will be with you people.
Wassalam

[neniajany]

May Allah make a way for you brother.

[Queueftof]

everyone.

My Family is disintegrating. Everyone is fighting with each other. We all have multiple loans and debts. Nobody is thinking logically. I am the youngest so nobody hears me out. My Career is nowhere. Other relatives not helping much. Lots of things going on that I dont wanna mention. I m making lots of Dua. But please make Dua for me and my family. Please. I m in tears.

My Dear Brother, Assalaamoalikum

I'll not miss praying for you. May Allah(SWT) Sends His Blessings on your family and you. Insh'Allah, soon things will be in order.

Brotherly yours
farook

[engideNedmupe]

My Dear Brother, Assalaamoalikum

I'll not miss praying for you. May Allah(SWT) Sends His Blessings on your family and you. Insh'Allah, soon things will be in order.

Brotherly yours
farook

[swissloveone]

Jazakallahu Kharain All of you.
I dont know what to say. This situation has been there for a few years. No unity in the Family. Now it has escalated to almost cutting of the relations. I m really concerned. I feel stupid for complaining, not considering all the other Mercy of Allah. I guess i m too impatient also i have an anger problem which doesnt help the situation. Remember me in your Duas.
May Allah save all of our family from such Fitna. Ameen.

[paralelogram]

Brother Azhar:

I know what it's like to feel like your prayers are going unanswered, but fear not, they will be answered and in a manner that will be most pleasing to you InshAllah. I will be making dua for akhi in a couple of minutes InshAllah. All I ask that you do the same for Allah to answer my salat and duas.

[swissloveone]

Brother Azhar:

I know what it's like to feel like your prayers are going unanswered, but fear not, they will be answered and in a manner that will be most pleasing to you InshAllah. I will be making dua for akhi in a couple of minutes InshAllah. All I ask that you do the same for Allah to answer my salat and duas.

bro.

[PlayboyAtWork]

everyone.

My Family is disintegrating. Everyone is fighting with each other. We all have multiple loans and debts. Nobody is thinking logically. I am the youngest so nobody hears me out. My Career is nowhere. Other relatives not helping much. Lots of things going on that I dont wanna mention. I m making lots of Dua. But please make Dua for me and my family. Please. I m in tears.

Whats your career?

[PymnImmen]

A lot of istighfar. It will open many doors

[paralelogram]

Brother:

InshAllah, if you don't mind me asking, are you in the UK or US? Also, how long has this been going on? AND is it pretty much about anything and everything, or does your family argue about something in particular? Sorry if I sound nosy, but I want to be the best brother I can to you and give you the best advice I can give you InshAllah.

[Paybeskf]

My prayers with you my dear brother, but you should also seek all the means that you can to resolve the situations as quick as possible.

Make a plan. Contact someone whom you can approach and is respected by most of them if there is anyone like that, explain the whole situation to him and try to make him as a middle man or a negotiator.

Stretch the importance of family unity and about the severe punishments from Allah for breaking family ties.

I know different family has different issues and one approach might not work with the other, but i'll just explain how we managed to avoid a clash in our family.

My grand father (mom's dad, her mother is still alive) died few yrs back and and the partitioning was delayed and delayed and finally people started to realize it and planned to carry out the partitioning.. they had 9 children (my mom and her brothers and sisters).

They are all really loving people actually and i cant imagine or tolerate anyone of them hating each other, but slowly fitna started to pop up, huge communication gap and people taking different meaning about what the other said and all that, shaitan had a really good time ! They had I think 3 meeting, i which everyone agreed to the terms on how to partition, but still the fitna started to popup and finally they had one more meeting with a Qadhi and a family friend (he was also present in previous meetings too) as their middle man. But this time, rather than leaving it all to themselves, i called up my cousin brother and made a small plan to tackle the issue.

The meeting started and we started to hear little shoutings and arguments heating up, we were in another room. Me and my cousin started our tricks, we started to test the waters by walking near by and popping our heads in and out, then we started to go and stand at the entrance of the room so that everyone can see us and know we are also listening..
once in a while someone among them would comeout of the room to drink some water or something, we would make fun of them not coming to an agreement yet and made them sure that we (their sons and daughters) are also listening and learning from them and we said how we can handle the situation better if they leave it us.. like we (their children) would just fight off and finish the deal.. well, all in our own funny way.. and they would simply smile

Finally we started our cameras and started recording the event, by then they had started to become mature, coz they understood we are also listening and they became extra neat when they saw the camera n: , we continued the recording till the qadhi read the new agreement out loud and everyone signing it. We made them sure that they cant now go back on this and we are documenting it this time with solid proof. And Alhamdulillah, everything is now settled and happy.

Indeed our presence there was a positive factor in making everyone a little careful in their words and actions, they cant let their children see how bad they can get

BUT, the same scenario cant be applied to yours.. i was just trying to explain how simple things can be helpful in keeping the family ties strong. Many factors like culture and tradition can greatly influence your situation.

You need to contact whoever you can within and outside the family who can help you and whom you can talk with, discuss with them and try to explore all the possibilities.

I pray and wish the best for you and your family.

[swissloveone]

Brother:

InshAllah, if you don't mind me asking, are you in the UK or US? Also, how long has this been going on? AND is it pretty much about anything and everything, or does your family argue about something in particular? Sorry if I sound nosy, but I want to be the best brother I can to you and give you the best advice I can give you InshAllah.

I don't mind you questioning bro, i can understand your good intentions. I am from India, am 26 years old. My Father passed away 1.5 years back. Only me and my Mother at home now. Rest abroad. There some particular Issues, One of them have cut communications with us. Then there is financial trouble on top of it. The problem is we trying to sell a property of ours, to settle Lakhs of ruppees in debt and loan. But no takers for the property.

I m a bit uncomfortable discussing all of the details bro. It is because I have not even told my situation to my close friends or extended family. If I post my details here, someone I know might recognize it very easily.
Also ever since i posted the thread I m feeling guilty that i am impatient in facing Allah's trails. So I dont want to complain.
May Allah give us patience to suffer such trails. Ameen.

everyone for the support and Duas.

[paralelogram]

InshAllah, may Allah make it easy on you brother. You are not being impatient. You are doing what any person does while going through a tribulation. Even Hamza (R.A.) was frustrated when they were constantly being attacked and they were being told not to defend themselves. But as Allah says, "Verily with diffuculty comes ease."

Keep making dua and believe in Allah. InshAllah, you will be out of this trial soon akhi.

[vigraxtru]

As-salamu alaikum wr wb brother,

I am making dua for you inshallah. May Allah rectify you and your family's condition and restore peace and love and mercy amongst you. Have sabr brother, it is so important. Make a plan especially to pay of the debt and the loans. Take it step by step and have faith that someone will come and buy your property, may Allah make it happen if it is best for you and your family. Please keep faith, and I'm glad that you reached out here to let your brothers and sisters know you are in need. Inshallah many many people on SF are making dua for you and your family. Allah says that Surely after every difficulty comes ease for those who believe wa Allahu A3lam

[MwhwF6bp]

Inshaa'Allah du'aa on the way.

Ask for advice from qualified people too brother during these crisis

[babopeddy]

Duaa made for you, Brother. Insha Allah everything will be OK in due time.

I commend you. Even though you have troubles of your own, you made room to try helping me with mine (in one of my threads). Masha Allah.

[paralelogram]

Real talk findway. I commend this brother. May Allah make it easy on you and anyone here going through struggles.

[AnetTeilor]

May Allah make everything easy for you bro. These tests and tribulations that sometimes come are full of blessings from Allah. Allah has many hidden wisdoms and benefits behind them.

I am sure you read Urdu right? If so, there are some pages I would like to scan for you which should be relieving.