[Todilrdc]

salaams-

i was listening to a lecture by a shaykh and he said that a test he would give to people in the masjid to see how strong their belief in the qadr of Allah was:
he asked them if they were driving a car in a parking lot, slowly backing out of their space, looking in the rear view mirror and no one was there, they backed out, and then BOOM! they hit something, if the say "f---" or "s---", and then they died, this would be their last action and they would die on that. How can we condition ourselves so we do not react like this?

jazakallah for any suggestions...

[Marat]

As someone who has never had a habit of using swear-words, I think it had a lot to do with my upbringing. I would never dare to use those words in front of my parents. So perhaps you could benefit by spending more time with people in whose presence you would be embarrassed to use foul language (your mother, grandmother, other elders, teachers, etc.). You will also need to make an effort to be self-conscious about everything you say. Eventually, you will get to a point where you would find it extremely awkward and shameful to use such language, even if you wanted to. Once people know you as "that guy who never swears", there will be an expectation on you to live up to that image, which will make it easier.

[autolubitelone]

I would never dare to use those words in front of my parents. So perhaps you could benefit by spending more time with people in whose presence you would be embarrassed to use foul language (your mother, grandmother, other elders, teachers, etc.). You will also need to make an effort to be self-conscious about everything you say. Eventually, you will get to a point where you would find it extremely awkward and shameful to use such language, even if you wanted to. Once people know you as "that guy who never swears", there will be an expectation on you to live up to that image, which will make it easier.

Spot on bro. That really works. It worked for me. But we should make our intentions right. We should leave bad words for the Sake of Allah, rather than just to show others. We have to be careful

Also make a conscious effort. When something bad happens call Allah. Stick on to a dikr like 'subhanallah or astaghfirullah, or innalillahi wa inna illahirrajioon.'
It definitely worked for a person who had a swear word in practically every sentence he spoke.
And make lots of Dua, InshAllah you will speak nothing but good.

[mincbiori]

A person I know told me that he never used to swear, but when he met some new people, it was the normal thing, so he would sometimes as well. However he realized it was wrong. So anytime when the thought came in the mind, he would say "ASTAGHFIRULLAH" out loud, no matter where he was. Nowadays if anything bad happens, he says "Inna Lillahi wa Inna Ilayhi Raji'oon!" and if something dangerous happens then he says "Hasbiya Allah!"

Swearing is definitely something that is too prevalent in our society and needs to be eradicated. How can a person who reads Qur'aan let such filthy words come out of their mouth? That thought always makes me double think.

Lately I am also trying to say "Inna Lillahi wa Inna Ilayhi Rajioon" because Allah Ta'aala says in the Qur'aan that glad tidings are for those who are patient in adversity and say "Inna Lillahi wa Inna Ilayhi Raji'oon. (2:155-156)

[eFDMBwKH]

...swearing is a really bad habit, its disgusting....and you need to have the right company in order to get rid of it as brother NNoor said......the swearwords are generally designed to dishonour respected relations such as mother and sister and that itself speaks of what filth these words bring and how they damage a person spiritually.....many habitually bad mouthed people have landed themselves in the embarassing situation of accidently swearing in front of their parents or other family.....My dad is not speaking to our driver for the last month because he sweared in front of him.....

The harmful effects of swearing are often underestimated amongst even good muslims according to our times.....I strongly believe that habitual swearing can make a person Beghairat in the long run, as what comes out of the tongue does effect the heart.....It is seriously contrary to haya....Inna Lillah is definitely a great substitute (obviously)...Often people swear when in pain and shouting "Allah Akbar" or "Allaaaaah" can help you avoid it in that situation....May Allah purify our tongues and minds.

[autolubitelone]

Yea we tend to underestimate the bad effects of swearing. Most of us get this habit in college, where swearing is considered 'cool'. I think 'peer pressure' has been an important factor for deviating the youth from Islam.

And incline not to those who do wrong, or the fire will seize you. (Hud 11:113)

Nowadays good pious friends are more rare than diamonds.

[Anavaralo]

salaams-

i was listening to a lecture by a shaykh and he said that a test he would give to people in the masjid to see how strong their belief in the qadr of Allah was:
he asked them if they were driving a car in a parking lot, slowly backing out of their space, looking in the rear view mirror and no one was there, they backed out, and then BOOM! they hit something, if the say "f---" or "s---", and then they died, this would be their last action and they would die on that. How can we condition ourselves so we do not react like this?

jazakallah for any suggestions...

That reminds me of a story i heard.. two guys driving down a road, playin music and then they crashed. When the paramedics arrived they tried to get them to say shahada (obv a muslim country) but all they could say was the music that was still on their tongues..

Allahumma ba3d baynana wa baynalkha6aya, wa khallee akhir kilaamina asshahada.
Allah distance us from the wrong deeds, and leave our last words to be the shahada