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Bismillah

Salaam

My situation is not a major thing, but i would just like some advice in deciding of what to do:

Current situation of mine: Just achieved a HND accounting qualification allhamdulillah, and allhamdulillah i will be starting a job in finance however it is low pay, but the job gives me a lot of opportunities to progress further inshaAllah, along with this i am pursuing islamic studies which by no means i want to give up because this is what comes first at the end of the day..i also enjoy keeping fit and i am learning striking and grappling (which i have been wanting to do for some time but due to circumstances i couldn't, but now by the permission of Allah i am now doing this, and dont want to give this up)

Saying that, i have an option of studying further, which i wanted to do at first and i thought i could cope with it, however now that time has approached, i dont think i will have enough time in the day, as my daily schedule will be:

(1)Go to the gym before work
(2)come home from work around half 5 maybe 6,
(3) attend islamic class, and arrive back home by 9, 9:30, possibly 10
(4) i would then have to go through what i have learnt at islamic class too so it stays in my head...
(yes this will give me the weekend, but my weekend involves progressing further in the islamic studies and balancing out friends and family)

so now i am thinking am i really going to be able to find time to study further, as this will also leave me virtually no time for family tooo....

on top of this i am unmarried and approaching 23years, so i am also thinking would it be more worth wile to work hard at this job and to get promoted inshaAllah and also to be in search for a wife?

or

should i cancel marriage for another few years, and study and still manage to juggle everything else,

If you were me and you chose option 1, (this probably goes out to sisters now) would you consider marrying some1 with low pay, however the job was steady and progression was there, or is a more decent wage is what sisters look for these days too)?

if there are any other options feel free to say

jzk for your assitance

[SOgLak]

firstly u must remember one thing that marriage n promotion are both in the hands of ALLAH(swt)..n about a girl marrying a low wage guy..here is the criteria what the quran sets up.
Surah 24. An-Nur, Ayah 26 ... Good women are for good men, and good men for good women! so what u have to do is put ur trust in ALLAH(SWT)..inshallah whats in the destiny will come..ask for the barakah!u should make tell urself again n again that ur not going to live in this world forever,so be like a traveller is on his journey!u should be content with what u have, inshallah ALLAH(swt) wil increase his blessings.u should thank Allah(swt) for giving u taufeeq to study his deen and attend islamic classes.remember if ur doing some hard work for ur boss sincerily,he wil try to reduce ur burden n would be pleased with u, than what can u say about the Almighty who is AR RAHEEM,he'll not forsake u inshallah! u should try to be in the state of ablution evrytime,it will give u barakah in ur time n the best thing is to make dua n ask Allah(swt) for his help and ur age is perfect to attract ALLAH(swt)'s rahmat.it is a special weapon given to u.i m just giving my ignorant opinion, may be it could help you!! do remember me in ur prayers!!

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Asalam Alykum WrWb,

MashaAllah, very nice intentions and you seem to be hardworking. May Allah SWT give you more strength to strive for the deen.

I am in no position to give you advice but in the effort of advicing you, i myself will get corrected.

Brother, before making the decision you are supposed to do 2 things,

1. Make enough mashwara (consultations) with elder, pious, experienced and who ever you find that is able to give you some hands on experience.
2. Isthikhara

What advice I could give you is: General advice

1. Dont distribute life by time, you will slip that way, work by your 'tasks' and their priority and not by time.

2. Prioritize your life according to deen, so marriage comes first, islamic studies come first. There is no use of higher salary or higher education if you are missing out on deen. At the end of the day, its those hours and seconds that are counted which you spent on deen, learning it, perfecting it.. and "practising it"

3. Make every single move in your life for the sake of Allah SWT.Have the right intentions in whatever you do.

4. Know yourself, Its easy to get ethusiastic about lots of things and you would want to do many things at the same time.. Shaykh hussain abdul Sattar Saheb puts it in the right way: Dont drill so many holes in the ground, you wont get any where, just drill ONE hole and youl get to the water. Doing less things but perfectly is better than doing lots of things in a messy way.

5. Always connect with Allah SWT. You will get answers brother. Right intentions with connection with Allah SWT will always open the right doors for you.

All the best for the future.

[AmfitNom]

Bismillah

Salaam

My situation is not a major thing, but i would just like some advice in deciding of what to do:

Current situation of mine: Just achieved a HND accounting qualification allhamdulillah, and allhamdulillah i will be starting a job in finance however it is low pay, but the job gives me a lot of opportunities to progress further inshaAllah, along with this i am pursuing islamic studies which by no means i want to give up because this is what comes first at the end of the day..i also enjoy keeping fit and i am learning striking and grappling (which i have been wanting to do for some time but due to circumstances i couldn't, but now by the permission of Allah i am now doing this, and dont want to give this up)

Saying that, i have an option of studying further, which i wanted to do at first and i thought i could cope with it, however now that time has approached, i dont think i will have enough time in the day, as my daily schedule will be:

(1)Go to the gym before work
(2)come home from work around half 5 maybe 6,
(3) attend islamic class, and arrive back home by 9, 9:30, possibly 10
(4) i would then have to go through what i have learnt at islamic class too so it stays in my head...
(yes this will give me the weekend, but my weekend involves progressing further in the islamic studies and balancing out friends and family)

so now i am thinking am i really going to be able to find time to study further, as this will also leave me virtually no time for family tooo....

on top of this i am unmarried and approaching 23years, so i am also thinking would it be more worth wile to work hard at this job and to get promoted inshaAllah and also to be in search for a wife?

or

should i cancel marriage for another few years, and study and still manage to juggle everything else,

If you were me and you chose option 1, (this probably goes out to sisters now) would you consider marrying some1 with low pay, however the job was steady and progression was there, or is a more decent wage is what sisters look for these days too)?

if there are any other options feel free to say

jzk for your assitance

At one stage in my life, I have went through this process. Infact i woke up a fajr, went to clg at 8am and from there went to job (team lead) and would return home at around 11.15 PM, have a dinner and it would be almost 12 before i went to sleep.

So with this experience, if i were you I would do this

1. Go to gym
2. Go to job
3. Leave the islamic studies (instead u can have a short course of about 1 hr) like from 7 to 8
4. Marry immediately (i was married in 24)

[Arkadiyas]

it is possible to do everything on your list, Allah does really put barakah in time if you have the correct intentions

Regarding job, your first priority should be a job which is 100% halal where you don't have to doubt your earnings, even if all the halal jobs are poorly paid. Secondly try to find somewhere that does not require you to compromise on your deen as in you can still make your prayers on time, you are not compelled to go to haraam office party's etc. These things are more important than pay.

If i was a man i don't think i could give up my Islamic studies and be at peace...it depends on the individual...would giving it up make you miserable or would your eemaan suffer as a result?

I don't think it will be extremely difficult to find a sister who is content with a not so high earning husband, when it comes to practicing sisters i think most of the financial demands are made by their guardians rather than what they themselves would like....wallahu alam

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Bismillah

Salaam

My situation is not a major thing, but i would just like some advice in deciding of what to do:

Current situation of mine: Just achieved a HND accounting qualification allhamdulillah, and allhamdulillah i will be starting a job in finance however it is low pay, but the job gives me a lot of opportunities to progress further inshaAllah, along with this i am pursuing islamic studies which by no means i want to give up because this is what comes first at the end of the day..i also enjoy keeping fit and i am learning striking and grappling (which i have been wanting to do for some time but due to circumstances i couldn't, but now by the permission of Allah i am now doing this, and dont want to give this up)

Saying that, i have an option of studying further, which i wanted to do at first and i thought i could cope with it, however now that time has approached, i dont think i will have enough time in the day, as my daily schedule will be:

(1)Go to the gym before work
(2)come home from work around half 5 maybe 6,
(3) attend islamic class, and arrive back home by 9, 9:30, possibly 10
(4) i would then have to go through what i have learnt at islamic class too so it stays in my head...
(yes this will give me the weekend, but my weekend involves progressing further in the islamic studies and balancing out friends and family)

so now i am thinking am i really going to be able to find time to study further, as this will also leave me virtually no time for family tooo....

on top of this i am unmarried and approaching 23years, so i am also thinking would it be more worth wile to work hard at this job and to get promoted inshaAllah and also to be in search for a wife?

or

should i cancel marriage for another few years, and study and still manage to juggle everything else,

If you were me and you chose option 1, (this probably goes out to sisters now) would you consider marrying some1 with low pay, however the job was steady and progression was there, or is a more decent wage is what sisters look for these days too)?

if there are any other options feel free to say

jzk for your assitance

what is your objective?

[maxsobq]

Salaam jazakAllah for the helpful advice

i dont know how to use this forum properly but i'll reply back to those who i need to reply back 2 :

Brother, shakibhat: allhamdulillah i am content with what i have, money dont bother me, its just will the wife be, inshaAllah who ever she is i hope she will be content inshaAllah, may Allah reward you lots for helping me out.Ameen

Brother, Helper man: - JazakAllah for ur advice bro it was helpful, what talk of shaykh hussain abdul sataar is that called? it would be helpful bruv

Sister aman: JazakAllah for ur advice tooo, i wont leave my islamic studies, ive learnt from a lesson earlier in life and allhamdulillah that amongst other reasons is whats keeping me going, by the Grace of Allah this job is 200% halal, if i told u, its like a dream job for practising people lol allhamdulillah, Allah rewards the patient allhamdulillah, sabr and shukr are keys to life, establish this, and life is a breeze

jazakAllah for ur advice though, its helped, i just needed some backing up to make sure i am doing the right thing, remember me in your pious duas.