[Enjoymmsq]

I don't think there is any need for teenagers or adults to celebrate their birthday but for small children (say under 10s) what do you say? Should we have a small party in the house with a birthday cake and candles and presents or not? In Western society it is normal to and they might feel missed out if their non Muslim friends have birthdays (and they get invited) but themselves don't celebrate it.

[gardenerextraordinaire]

I don't know exactly what's right, but I don't think one should celebrate anybody's birthday. If anything a child should be gently reminded to thank Allah on that day for giving him life. With a teen you can remind them of death perhaps? Throughout the year a child should get good gifts, not just on his birthday. The only birthday I think should be celebrated is the real birth day that happens once in a lifetime. As I say, this isn't scholarly, just expressing opinions. Allahu 'alam.

Wassalam.

[snova]

I wouldn't encourage birthday celebrations, but it may be good to throw a da'wat/summer party for childrens' friends once or twice a year. Maybe have a bouncy castle, etc. Make more of an effort than non-muslims do for their children so that they feel privileged to be Muslim.

[myspacepro]

I don't think there is any need for teenagers or adults to celebrate their birthday but for small children (say under 10s) what do you say? Should we have a small party in the house with a birthday cake and candles and presents or not? In Western society it is normal to and they might feel missed out if their non Muslim friends have birthdays (and they get invited) but themselves don't celebrate it.

What about spending that money (of small party) for orphans?

[SasortFkire]

One must first spend on one's family before anything else.

[jessyhalm]

We shouldn't copy non-Muslims in having birthdays, doing it with the purpose of making a child not feel left out is doing it to imitate the kuffar which is unlawful.

http://spa.qibla.com/issue_view.asp?...=2106&CATE=115

And if you have parties for young children then when does it stop? At what age do you draw a line, at which point the child will become confused that they are not getting presents this year? Why not have a Christmas tree in that case, just so the kids don't feel left out? Families should make 'Eid a bigger occasion, if all you do for 'Eid is make lots of food, drive to another city to sit in someone else's house for a few hours and eat, it's no wonder kids want something more exciting. My mum threw a 'henna party' for my sisters (who were about 7 and 9 at the time) where they invited all their friends over to do henna and have snacks and dress up, an opportunity for da'wah and completely unrelated to anyone's birthday.

http://www.1eidcambridge.org.uk/

[xquFzpNw]

My mum threw a 'henna party' for my sisters (who were about 7 and 9 at the time) where they invited all their friends over to do henna and have snacks and dress up, an opportunity for da'wah and completely unrelated to anyone's birthday.

Apologies if my post wasn't clear, but this is the kind of thing that I am encouraging. The parties should not be held anywhere near a birthday and can be a great opportunity for da'wah.

[NutChusty]

You might make Jumma a day of happiness, so that we grow to see it as an important day for a Muslim. Just make it slightly different from the rest of the week, newely washed clothes mention that it is jumma today, use a little perfume, give a little bit of sadaqa, keep a sadaqa jar in the home and once a week or month go with the children to empty it somewhere appropriate at a charity or masjid.

[fudelholf]

Apologies if my post wasn't clear, but this is the kind of thing that I am encouraging. The parties should not be held anywhere near a birthday and can be a great opportunity for da'wah.

Yes I understood this was what you meant, I was just illustrating it with a practical example.

[Mambattedge]

I don't think there is any need for teenagers or adults to celebrate their birthday but for small children (say under 10s) what do you say? Should we have a small party in the house with a birthday cake and candles and presents or not? In Western society it is normal to and they might feel missed out if their non Muslim friends have birthdays (and they get invited) but themselves don't celebrate it.

Bismihi Ta’ala

Dear Sister in Islam,
As-Salaamu ‘alaykum waRahmatullah

1.) When we have been granted priceless pearls and gems with the beautiful Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) – it would be foolishness to exchange that for stones – and in this regard, the stones denote the ways, the culture and the customs of the non-Muslims.

Alhamdulillah, we have been given a superior way of life in the Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) – then why should we relinquish that for the inferior?

2.) Whilst you may be enquiring about and suggesting birthday parties for minors, let us not indirectly propose compromising on Deen and compromising on the Pleasure of Allah Ta’ala by giving preference to the western custom. Even though the post refers to minors, the suggestion and reasoning is not correct. Neither should we be attending their parties, nor should we be emulating them by having the same.

Alhamdulillah, there are Halaal forms of entertaining children.

3.) The Hadeeth makes mention: Whoever imitates a people is one of them.

So it is not permissible to imitate the non-Muslims in their celebrations. And a good Muslim would never want to introduce her child to the culture, customs, dress, etc. of the non-muslims.

Islam is beautiful. There is no flaw, no failing in Islam. It is not “dry”. It is not boring. It is not difficult. On the contrary, it is enjoyable, it is easy and it offers so much of comfort (for both adults and children) – and ultimately, it offers the success of both worlds.

4.) So my dear sister, we have to give thought to what we intend to post, so that we do not unknowingly direct towards something which is not acceptable in Islam, and then unwittingly become an associate in what displeases Allah Ta’ala.

5.) The following link is an article of the respected Shaykh, Maulana Abdul Hamid Is`haq of South Africa. Insha-Allah, it will offer you some understanding.

http://www.khanqahashrafiaislamia.co..._birthdays.pdf

6.) Allah Ta’ala grant us all, deep appreciation for what we have in Islam and give us a correct understanding also.

Was-Salaamu ‘alaykum waRahmatullah
Your sister in Islam

[geasurpacerma]

not allowed to celebrate bdays

[johnuioyer]

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/show...-to-some-Ulama