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[24/08/2012 7:12 AM] Salam my dear brothers and sisters,

I have a very serious problem where i need your helps, advice, opinions:
I am so inlove with a guy and he do love me too. we are now facing some trials and he is not talking to me now. HE is trying to avoid me and it hurts me alot. i cant even focus at work. We are planning of getting married very soon but i assume that he is not ready yet.
I always pray tahajjud and always ask Allah to bring him back to me and to give us one more chance and bless our relationship.
My question is...is my prayers valid if im asking Allah personally or directly to give him back to me...
I would appreciate any advice. And is there any specific prayers or duaa for my case?
Pls note: Moving on with my life and leave the guy is not my option as i love him soooo much.
Please help me...

Sukran!!!

[xanonlinexan]

Wa 'alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

My dear sister, we human beings do not know what is right for us. Allah knows what is best for us. When we follow shariah we cannot go wrong inshaa Allah. Okay khair you have made a mistake, you need to turn back to Allah in tawbah. Ask Allah to grant you a righteous spouse (and yes it might sting when you don't mention the name of he whom you had a relationship with) but think, how can somebody who disobeyed Allah in the first place to get you ever be fully obedient to you? Keep on asking Allah for a righteous spouse, turn back to Allah totally, remember Him, cry unto Him. Soon everything will be fine inshaa Allah. Now you may love somebody but it could be that through remembering Allah this love will be driven out. I experienced something like that but with friends back in college and I realised they are not my life, I learnt that the love of Allah precedes all. I can't even imagine how it was like feeling upset about them anymore, it's like it has been sieved out out of my system. My current friends and I hardly hang around as you would call it, we give each other company while we have it and talk here and there. Why? Because we know we have to spend a lot more time with Allah...may Allah give us tawfeeq. Ameen.

Another tip is to busy yourself. Try not to think about the happenings at work, no matter how much it hurts just continue. Start doing some khidmah of the deen (however you can), perhaps take a small course on Islamic knowledge etc make sure you are doing plenty of things so that you don't have time to think about what's happened in your life. I became happier when I started teaching and had to focus on the education of the students, didn't have much time to grieve.

I know you might feel very hurt not seeing a direct way to somebody you think you love, but believe me, become Allah's slave and soon you will forget this time of your life. Look for Allah's pleasure. Everything will soon pass inshaa Allah, but you have to stand still through the winds...

Wassalam
And please do include me in your du'aas, forgive me if I have hurt you.

[Thydaysuh]

Wa 'alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

My dear sister, we human beings do not know what is right for us. Allah knows what is best for us. When we follow shariah we cannot go wrong inshaa Allah. Okay khair you have made a mistake, you need to turn back to Allah in tawbah. Ask Allah to grant you a righteous spouse (and yes it might sting when you don't mention the name of he whom you had a relationship with) but think, how can somebody who disobeyed Allah in the first place to get you ever be fully obedient to you? Keep on asking Allah for a righteous spouse, turn back to Allah totally, remember Him, cry unto Him. Soon everything will be fine inshaa Allah. Now you may love somebody but it could be that through remembering Allah this love will be driven out. I experienced something like that but with friends back in college and I realised they are not my life, I learnt that the love of Allah precedes all. I can't even imagine how it was like feeling upset about them anymore, it's like it has been sieved out out of my system. My current friends and I hardly hang around as you would call it, we give each other company while we have it and talk here and there. Why? Because we know we have to spend a lot more time with Allah...may Allah give us tawfeeq. Ameen.

Another tip is to busy yourself. Try not to think about the happenings at work, no matter how much it hurts just continue. Start doing some khidmah of the deen (however you can), perhaps take a small course on Islamic knowledge etc make sure you are doing plenty of things so that you don't have time to think about what's happened in your life. I became happier when I started teaching and had to focus on the education of the students, didn't have much time to grieve.

I know you might feel very hurt not seeing a direct way to somebody you think you love, but believe me, become Allah's slave and soon you will forget this time of your life. Look for Allah's pleasure. Everything will soon pass inshaa Allah, but you have to stand still through the winds...

Wassalam
And please do include me in your du'aas, forgive me if I have hurt you.

subhaanAllaah! Couldn't have put this in a better way!!
maashaAllaah
may Allaah make it easier for u my beloved sister