[Smabeabumjess]

Why is it that some ppl in authority get away with being so mean to ppl? Does anyone have ideas on how to handle this. I'm starting to learn to deal with it and have realised that if you dont let the person have the last word you kinda win at times or if you question the person is authority when they make a stupid demand they kinda ease up. Not liking this lesson one bit let me tell you & to be honest i'm holding out till the day i'm qualified and can walk away from this place. If any of you have got any suggestions i'd be more than willing to put some of your ideas to the test.

[9V4i8xw1]

You aren't going to like it lol.

For me when I know I can do nothing but follow the direction of my superior. Then I do. Usually I just say "Oh? Ok you need me to do this. Sure! *bright smile*" Then let it go. Too many people in authority have an ego manic complex. Their lessons are coming too.

Letting go is your lesson as of late. You must not be entirely letting go for it to repeat (I have that one often too! lol)

[AnimeThat]

So I need to learn to not take her personal which is gonna be tough since she gets in my face so much and is such a you know what at times. lol. I'm going to try though.. ((really hard)). Thanks laura

[doolarsva]

yes, because it really ISN'T about you at all. It is her own insecurities.

If you look at it that way and see she is being a bully because she feels inadequate and insecure, you may have more compassion for her tantrums

[Grennios]

What used to work for me is I would surround the person in pink and in my head I would say " I send you love" over and over again. I would feel a lot calmer and sometimes the person would stop mid sentence and just walk away or they would become rather nice all of a sudden. And I wouldn't take it personally.

[Deribasov]

Many people in authoritative positions have grandiose ideas but no common sense. When presented with one of these "pie in the sky ideas" I will usually first repeat what they said and then say"Well, if that is what you really want ., then we have to do this and this and this and it will cost you this and this and this". Usually upon reflection of reality the response is either "Okay, forget it." or "Okay, do what you can." You can sometimes argue with logic (and an employee who knows what they are talking about) but it most likely doesn't hold up.

[GtmFeqJJ]

yeah you're right. I would have never thought my director would be insecure but now that you mentioned it it kinda makes sense. she's so young and pretty and she thinks we all think she's dumb, no-one thinks that about her lol but she's got that in her head and it's like she thinks we're idiots but all we want is to work like a team and to have a director to turn to and bk us up. she was fantastic today, i hope it lasts Thanks again laura

yes, because it really ISN'T about you at all. It is her own insecurities.

If you look at it that way and see she is being a bully because she feels inadequate and insecure, you may have more compassion for her tantrums

[RaicickKida]

Thanks cathy and salandra, I'll have to try the pink bubble if it happenes again.

What used to work for me is I would surround the person in pink and in my head I would say " I send you love" over and over again. I would feel a lot calmer and sometimes the person would stop mid sentence and just walk away or they would become rather nice all of a sudden. And I wouldn't take it personally.

[emexiagog]

I don't have a problem with people with Authority just the ones who act like they are in charge! What is starting to work for me is just walking away if you can! I dealt with this as you already know Harmony for 21 years! I just go about doing my job and taking control of the situation if i can walking away definately works too! It drives them crazy they start complaining etc i just walk away and come back and act like nothing happened!! It's awesome!! It's hard cause i work very close to this person almost every day trick is not to take their problems personal think laura said it's their problem not yours! When people are unhappy they try and make everyone else miserable that is when i learned to walk away do something else for 10 minutes and then come back! Work is hard enough some days and no one should be treated differently!!

Good luck sometimes it's just easier to walk away!!

[Sowsunese]

yes, because it really ISN'T about you at all. It is her own insecurities.

If you look at it that way and see she is being a bully because she feels inadequate and insecure, you may have more compassion for her tantrums

I quiet agree with this.. as I am seeing and learning and this quote just justifies certain things...

[SoOW2LeA]

my problem earlier in the week was not being able to pretend like nothing had happened, then whinging about it to co-workers which made it worse lol. i've been chirpier towards her the last two days and she's improved. I hope it stays that way "fingers crossed". I'll definately start to see it as her problem from now on though...

I don't have a problem with people with Authority just the ones who act like they are in charge! What is starting to work for me is just walking away if you can! I dealt with this as you already know Harmony for 21 years! I just go about doing my job and taking control of the situation if i can walking away definately works too! It drives them crazy they start complaining etc i just walk away and come back and act like nothing happened!! It's awesome!! It's hard cause i work very close to this person almost every day trick is not to take their problems personal think laura said it's their problem not yours! When people are unhappy they try and make everyone else miserable that is when i learned to walk away do something else for 10 minutes and then come back! Work is hard enough some days and no one should be treated differently!!

Good luck sometimes it's just easier to walk away!!