[kasandrasikl]

hello everybody. now and again something will ring my bell so loud that i simply must share. there has been another understanding that has been developing in my mind for the last couple of weeks. a lot of it has occurred because i have been steeping myself lately in the idea of "shadow work".

so i was laying in bed with my girlfriend the other night and usually i will say something like, "sweet dreams" or "sleep good" or something like that. but this night, something just came out of my mouth that i was not expecting. i said, "i hope you dream what you need." and i froze when i said that. i thought, that was not necessarily a sweet loving thing to say. it almost felt kind of cold and mean. like saying, "i hope you get what you deserve".

but then i thought back to a definition of love that i tend to prefer which is: "love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth." considering this definition of love then wishing someone to get what they need is actually a higher kind of love then just wishing someone to always be happy and therefore never encountering adversity, which leads to growth. so, imo, to wish someone what they need, and also stick around to support him/her through whatever emerges from their shadow side, is a profound sort of love, indeed.

and then i thought of what someone told me once which is, "you don't get the dog you want, you get the dog you need." this person was implying that, a lot of the times (i'm not saying all the time), we get the perfect dog that will challenge us to grow in certain needed areas of our life.

now to overlay this line of thought over all of life we can see this everywhere the universe will most of the time give us the job, kids, girlfriend/boyfriend, mother/father, etc... that we need for our spiritual growth. the universe will give us something to reflect something that we have buried away in our shadow side and hidden. something we need to face and overcome. by the universe giving us what we need it is offering us our fears and challenging us to face them. and therefore loving us more then just giving us what we want and putting a baby's pacifier in our mouths.

so to sum it all up, this post was mostly inspired by the rolling stones song that goes: "you can't always get what you want (no) but if you try sometimes you just might find. you get what you need." but in this song i think they are mostly talking about desires such as money and such. you don't always get everything you want but you will always, at least, have the basics. meaning you won't starve and die. but for me, this song has a new meaning, in that it means that the universe loves us so much that it doesn't give us all our desires. it gives us the challenges we need to grow and ascend.

peace and love,
foo

[Immarsecice]

lovely post.

[EvaQWmrm]

i couldn't agree more with the op.

david has always said that the universe gives you more of whatever you want to run away from. so if you happen to have insecurity issues, then those issues will pop up more frequently in your life. i myself had a overbearing mother who in turn caused me to have co-dependency issues with just about anybody i made friends with. it wasn't until i woke up and realized what my problems were, that i acknowledged and dealt with the problem in me. you are your own single greatest doctor/psychologist, it just need the knowledge to know what fire signals to look for.

i agree with the op's statement "you don't get the dog that you want, you get the dog that you need." i believe that you are tested on a daily basis, because the universe wants to see your buttons pushed. this entire life is meant for spiritual growth, because that is what the higher self wants for you. it's hard to step outside of your circle and see the forest for the trees so to speak. however if something has a emotional charge and sets your emotions in a chaos, then it might mean you need to investigate those feelings on a deeper level.

~peace

[brilkyPlayday]

foo-that's so true!!!

the shadow-issue has been a hughe issue during many years ever since i met "jung" and only now i feel i'm "getting it", that is the longeat distance in the universe is btw the brain and the heart if you see what i mean.

i've had exactly the same thoughts and feelings concerning friends and family and had a feeling of guilt but i kow in my heart that i really want them to meet their own shadow and integrate it "individuation" in jungian terms even if i also suspect some feeling of revenge but then i have to deal with that also.

right on target

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