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For some reason, today I felt a need to burn sage and smudge my home. Afterward I sprinkled sea salt at all the doorways and windows. I've never done either of these, and wasn't feeling at all threatened or uncomfortable. It just seemed like the "right thing to do" if that makes sense.

Anyway, a bit after I did the sage and salt thing, I laid down for a lazy Sunday afternoon nap, and had a dream featuring my long-gone mother.

In the dream, I came home from work, and entered through the front door. I was surprised to find Mother lying on a sofa that was right next to the door. She seemed to be asleep or possibly dead.

I heard her say "Don't I get a hug" but she wasn't actually speaking, her lips didn't move and her eyes were closed, so it must have been through telepathy (in the dream).

Immediately I leaned down to hug her, and it was difficult as she didn't or couldn't move to hug me back. Her eyes remained closed.

I told her that I had always loved her, then I went to my room to put my things away. I come out of my room with my eyes closed for some reason, and run right into her! She was standing in the hallway.

I said something like "That's what I get for walking around with my eyes closed!"

And then we're back in the living room, and she's lying motionless and eyes-closed on the sofa again. I'm telling her about my work, and asking for her advice. In particular I mentioned the accounting firm we deal with, though I don't know why.

And that's when I woke up. Mother almost never comes to me in dreams, and I'm wondering if the smudging and salt had anything to do with it. When I burned the sage, I told negative energies to leave of course, but I also made a point of inviting positive energies to visit.

And I wonder about all the closed eyes, both Mother's and mine. Are we simply 'not seeing' each other, because we have our 'eyes closed?'

Has anyone had similar results from smudging? Or had dreams that involve closed eyes? Or feature people who appear to be dead?

[penpizdes]

Blue Tiger,

Wow what a dream! Thank you for sharing it.

I’ve just lately started to be able to remember my dreams again. I have just recently started looking for meanings of them. In other words, I am probably the last person you need to be commenting on your dream. But it will be a learning experience for me too. So here goes.

Considering that you had a visit from your mother just after burning sage, smudging your home & sprinkling sea salt & asking for for negative energies to leave & making a point of inviting positive energies to visit. I take it that you are seeing this as a positive visit, or maybe not?

Placing herself just inside your door seems as though she wants to get your attention immediately. Asking for a hug I think would mean she comes with good intentions. I don’t understand why she could not hug back unless this is her wanting you to show the affection or maybe it is you wanting to give the affection freely. A hug is usually a sweet & comforting symbol in dreams.


I have read to dream that your eyes are closed, suggests your refusal to see the truth about something or the avoidance of intimacy. You may be expressing feelings of hurt, pain or sympathy.

[NKUDirectory]

Thanks for the reply, Lemongrass.

You're right, I do see this as a positive visit. I know she never meant me any harm in real life, she just had many inner demons to contend with. I wish we'd had a healthy, loving relationship, but we didn't.

Yes, I believe you're right. Being by the front door was her way of getting my attention right away.

your refusal to see the truth about something or the avoidance of intimacy In a way, yes. If our eyes had met, the hug would not have happened. Embarrassment, shame, and feelings of abandonment would have been too much, and would have put a stone wall between us.

I don’t understand why she could not hug back Our relationship is so tentative that if she had hugged me back I think I might have freaked out. Or maybe ASKING for a hug was the biggest gesture she dared to make? Being asked for that hug was the biggest display of affection I've ever had from her... in life or after.

[TiepayWrary]

This talks a lot about your own fears or issues with the dead.

In your mind you already know spirit doesn't have arms or form. So it would be impossible for her to hug you. Or even that you knew she was dead. Dead people don't hug. (you incorporated that into the dream)

Eyes closed. As much as you may feel you are "open" to the astral worlds, in some ways, your eyes are still closed.

For you the smudging was important and it helped you to feel safe. You still have some fears. That is why she was able to come through partially, but as you can see, some of your fears or doubts still made it seem odd.

[NKUDirectory]

Very true, PM. Everything to do with my mother is tinged with apprehension and fear lol.

Eyes closed. As much as you may feel you are "open" to the astral worlds, in some ways, your eyes are still closed. Very, very true. And I do have a bad habit of "closing my eyes" to things that seem fearful or threatening. Mother isn't directly fearful, but my fear of rejection is still powerful, even after all these years. She died before my younger son was born, and he's 32 now.

It's only in the last two years that I've been able to face my feelings about her.

Thank you for taking the time to offer your insight!

[Rffkwfct]

[QUOTE=Blue Tiger;119137]For some reason, today I felt a need to burn sage and smudge my home. Afterward I sprinkled sea salt at all the doorways and windows. I've never done either of these, and wasn't feeling at all threatened or uncomfortable. It just seemed like the "right thing to do" if that makes sense.

Hi Blue Tiger,
I just picked up my Blue tiger eye and started thinking about you.

You felt the need to sage and smudge the day before the Chinese new year. I think it was a way to close the door, or get rid of the old before the new year came about.

You were guided to let a new experience come into your life and I feel like it couldn't until the cleansing happened. I feel like it's your mom trying to get her foot in the door, but that she can't open up all the way with you either. That it's difficult for her on many different levels and not just because of her life experience. That it's not just you that has difficulty with this. (And I'm sorry, I don't really know what that means but it's what I get) So, I fully admit I am newer to this-especially not on the phone or in person and I'm trying to be careful with my wording.

Hope all is well in your world,

Blessing,s
M

[NKUDirectory]

Wholespirit, thank you for your input. I hadn't thought about the Chinese New Year, but that makes sense! New Year, new beginning, and dragons are among my favorite beasts (Year of the Dragon)!

I feel you're right, Mother is 'trying to get her foot in the door.' I'm all for it. She had so much healing to do spiritually, and I want her to know that I forgave her long ago. Maybe I was subconsciously thinking of her when I invited positive energies to come visit.

And again you're right, we do have issues on many levels that need working through. I like to think I'm over it, but truth is the emotions, the fears, the forgiveness, it's all there and sometimes still fresh and raw.

Thanks to you all for taking time to answer. You've given me quite a bit to think about!