[Figelac]

The creepy guy at work is one of those types of people who obviously doesn't have good money or neccessarily come from a good family but he tries to make out like he has more than he is. He's a very poor man who doesn't have a permanent residence, and claims he could afford his own place but says he moves around so he can get disbility or whatever. He has some wacky ideas of what could help you obtain SSDI or SSI but in my experience, nothing is really guaranteed.

He claims he once had $30,000 and that he had traveled the world and once dated a Japanese millionairess.

And obviously he's telling lies. There's people who live with relatives in a normal house (such as myself) who apply and usually get disability. I don't think not having a permanent residence would help and besides he could've stayed in the HUD apartments he was apparently living in.

And I've met other people in my life and online (mostly guys) who try to make out like they are someone they aren't. Why do you think people do this?

[Catieliecutty]

Perhaps they are ashamed of who they are, painting a picture of who they want to be could be a source of comfort. Feeling that if they portray what they precieve is this perfect image people would be attracted to them. Thinking along the lines of the grass is always greener on the otherside.

All in all, they lack self love. The fine lines are always going to vary from individual to individual.

[Spisivavona]

Arbaracy is perhaps, right.. Maybe he lacks self love. But I think that it's very important to be compassionate and understand that people are like that for a reason..
We all learn and we all make the same mistakes but sometimes in a different form..

Love and light
Nightfairy

[topcasinobonua]

I agree, it could be a source of comfort for this person to make things up. It could also be that he actually believes what he is saying. Self-delusion is one way of coping with what someone feels is an unbearable existence. But whatever the reason, if he is making up stories or building himself up to be someone he isn't, then he is also in need of compassion, as Nightfairy said, as it suggests he could be in denial about his life and quite possibly in a lot of emotional pain.

[jakitula]

I think I'de agree with everyone else. Sometimes people pretend they're something they're not to deceive people and cause harm, but this man just seems ashamed, or possibly has an emotional problem. When some people are around others that they don;t feel equal to they feel the need to make things up to seem more interesting or better than they actually are. As frusterating as he might be, I wouldagree with the rest when they say he needs compassion

[Figelac]

Consider where I work, it's possible this man maybe mentally ill and delusional. He gave two contradictory stories that makes me think he's nuts. Once he told me about having to go on the hill (expression for going to a mental institution) after his mom or stepmom tried to kill him or something and then saying he screwed up on purpose on a psych test to try to work up there. Something really doesn't add up but I'm distancing myself from him since my energy and negative things happened when I was around him, so...

[jakitula]

It's possible that he does have a mental illness. He shouldn't be looked down upon because of it!

[awagsFare]

I wouldn't let it bother me, at least you know he is making up stories. Live and let live.

[Figelac]

It's possible that he does have a mental illness. He shouldn't be looked down upon because of it!

True but some mental illness causes people to hurt others and no one should get subjected to that.

He's one of those that likes to hurt others

[jakitula]

That is true Princess but you arn't emotionally involved with him in any way and you know he is lying, so other than it being slightly annoying it hopefully shouldn't effect you too much. You are lucky that you can look on and know that most of what he says isn't truth. I'm not saying that he is right in what he is doing, but there is probably a good reason for why he is doing it.

[imnaone]

True but some mental illness causes people to hurt others and no one should get subjected to that.

He's one of those that likes to hurt others

My father is one of those people that hurts others and lies then blames it all on his mental ilness and cant take responsablity for any of the stupid and hurtful thing he has done.
the only advice i have for you is to simply ignore him, try not to let what he says effect you and dont try to form any sort of friendship with him because you are most likely to only get hurt. be civil but i wouldnt bother trying to be friends.
you didnt sound like you were planing on being best buddies any time soon anyway haha.

[Spisivavona]

Nadine, yes, there are times when we can't be compassionate any more simply because people are not willing to take responsibility for their actions as it is in the case of your father.
But then we have a choice to stay or leave, to be compassionate and help or to ignore and keep distance because this is healthier for us..

Love
Nightfairy