[Orefsmisits]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 and a half years, we have had some really tough times but I feel now we are stronger than ever.

He suffers badly from depression and can take his stresses out on me by making up or over playing situations that he feels i have caused.

For example
I pissed him off on friday because I went out with his sister for the day, after which I text him and said I would be at his sisters but would probably go home early because I was tired, this was about half 8, I ended up being out till just after 1 but text him when i got home to see how his shift was going (he was working nights) so he was annoyed about that, last night I was texting him to see how he was, today is our only day off together till next sunday and I asked if he would be awake for me to come over, and we could just chill out and watch some 24 that we need to catch up on. this pissed him off further because he thinks i should know the situation at his house that if other people are around then we can't watch the tv, and i only suggested it if we had the chance i wasn't ignoring the situation. It just seems totally out of proportion to me. Does that seem fair???

Anyway I know that there must be something else bothering him but he is getting his anger out through me because most likely what he is annoyed about is only small. he understands that things that most people would ignore he gets tottaly mad about, it will ruin his day or even week. I have been with him when he has totally stressed and shouting because the sun has come out on a cloudy day, and he hasn't got his sunglasses!!!

He refuses any therapy because he did it before we were together and thinks it won't help, I convinced him once but the whole process stressed him out more so i let it go.

I just want him to be able to be calm in situations, to channel his stress and anger in a better way.

I love him more than anything and even though sometimes he can hurt me without meaning to I would never give up on him, he is amazing in so many ways and deserves to have a better quality of life.

Does anyone have any experience with having a depressed partner, what you can do to help them work through it? to keep him feeling more relaxed.

Sorry this is a bitlong

[Breevereurl]

That's a hard one because if he doesn't want help, you cannot force him to look at the situation differently.

Free will is a big thing when you are working with guides and if he realizes he is in this state and wants help, only then can I offer suggestions.

He needs more grounding is what I feel. He feels lost, no control of his own life and he is letting the little things turn to mountains.

You can ask his guides through meditation to guide him to hear you more when you suggest grounding. Take him for a walk in the woods, go to the park, get out in nature and really SEE nature. This will help you and he both.

[Orefsmisits]

Thanks pagen medium, its funny you should say about getting outdoors, we have recently both started new jobs, he hasn't worked for quite some time we don't get so much time together. Before he was working I don't think he felt as though he had much purpose.

We both don't like living here and really want to be some where quiter, we both love the outdoors but haven't had time to enjoy it for a while.

His main issue is that he must be in control, he hates things he can't control.

He wants things to be better but has been let down so many times that he thinks it will never be any more than what he has now.

We have holiday booked for July hopefully we can get outdoors and really have some relaxation.

[retyopj]

This may be a tangent,but I would try this website.Dr. Laura De Giorgio offers a free down load of a "Be Happy" Supraliminal recording if you sign up for her newsletter. You can download other things too from the website. If it helps him then you know that he really wanted to change because that's how hypnosis works.

http://deeptrancenow.com

[FBtquXT8]

Chicamia, I get where your coming from, he is all fine now, these moods pass so quickly. At one point I was very worried about wether he would get any better, and after starting work he has, this is the first time in ages that he has had a big strop. I just wish I could teach him how to relax, he feels like he has to be doing something all the time. When that pressure gets a bit to much he just folds, he knows what he needs to change and is trying but he is finding it hard. We know that with each others support this is something that will get worked out. He is a very naturally caring person and treats me very well. But we need to work at this together.