[ElenaEvgeevna]

Harmony your life is a carbon copy of mine but instead of beating yourself up about it accept it, embrace it because all these experiences have made you the wonderful person that you are today. How could you know and fully understand anyone elses's problems unless you had been there yourself. You could never give advice unless you accepted that helping guiding hand along the way on your very own journey.

I can talk to you like this because I have been were you are beating myself up but the key word is ACCEPTANCE. Accept the person your were and the person that are and the person in the future that you are yet to become we change all the time. Learn how to love yourself and in turn you can give that love out to others and they can share there love also.

[cjOTw7ov]

Hey Harmony,


I can totally relate to what ya are going thru my friend i been there many times!!

To be honest the only thing that is keeping you from beign truly happy is you!! You need to surround yourself with people who love ya for who you are and stop beating yourself up on things ya can't change.

You also need to learn not to be so hard on yourself! Your a wonderful person and friend!

What ya need to do is write down a list of things that you love about yourself and disregard the others!!

Like angelswings says accept it that is the key!! Positive attitude helps too!

I have suffered from low self esteem its aweful but beign around the right people gave me the confidence to move on from the past!
I am in an awesome place now cause of them!!

Learning to let go and accept is the hard part and once you move past this phase you will be happy but you gotta love yourself first! With me i see a perfect person and friend in ya if others can't see that it's their prolbem!!

You will get past this it happens to most of us!

Hang in there!!


Did I build your confidence level up alittle?

[Elisabetxxx]

Well said Comet I totally agree!

[Breevereurl]

Get the book Soul Stories by Gary Zukav.

He teaches you how. !

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So I'm sitting here wondering why can't I ever be truely happy. what is it thats stopping me from being happy. who is it that's making me unhappy.
the answer is me.....
the deeper meaning is my self esteem.
Oh I can put on a brave face and act like a warrior for the longest of periods but at the end of the day I'm just not happy... with what?? with who?? becasue of who?? becasue of ME...
looking back now it goes all the way back to teenagehood, was never happy with myself, ending up hanging around girls who i thought would make me happy cos they rebelled but that was never really me.. Had a really hot guy in highschool who liked me but I think it's my self esteem that made that never happen. I wasn't cool enough or popular enough or as skinny as the popular girls or as pretty..
then at early adult hood i found a friend in funny white powders and pills which suprisingly made me feel really confident in myself, I was on top of the world for a while until i fell in love and then it all came crashing down. then all the insercuritoes came back. he's cheating, he wants someone prettier skinner, that has all stayed with me for all my yrs of my relationship and now while i know he doesn;t think that way i still don't feel skinny enough or pretty enough for him...I don't have the courage to go out with him and his gf's for fear of not being as good as the other gf's. (sounds so silly when i say it but so true)
so then i wonder what the heck do i do get my confience back. i can't really say back cos i never had it to begin with (though i can put on a pretty good performance and have a very carefree attitute to critism but deep deep down I'm not happy with myslef and nor do i have any clue whatso ever as to how to find thathappiness, I really don't. there's no cure or medicine i can think of that'll do the trick. I've tried so hard to be myself for the last number of yrs, even to the point where i don't even drink so it's all me but still the anxiety,s the feeling of not being worthy. not being good enough,(worker, duaghter, gf, )
I just haven't got a clue. maybe my life long lesson was to live life without confidence in this lifetime i't sjust so bizaree sitting here thinking to myself that i don't have the answer..
maybe i'm just having a bad day & right b4 my b'day lol