[Uzezqelj]

Hi just a quick up date, to my bath time worries....

Glad to report that for the last month or so, she has once again love "Bath Time"

woohoo.......

thank you for your support and ideas...

The persistence and bath toys (she got to pick out for herself...) HELPED......

Blessings to all.... and thank you again...

[DOWNLOADnowADOBEphotoSHOP]

Oh How I miss these type of problems!!! I wish My babies were small again lol.... 2:45am.... and waiting for my son to come home! (ya he's in BIG trouble! And knows it!)

hmmm I always wanted a little girl? want to trade??? lol

[GrolmangHat27]

Hi leeslight,

I have a 3 year old son and I know exactly were your coming from. They are going through that nightmare stage if she doesn't want a bath and just wants a shower just let her have a shower, its no big deal its not worth all the upset and turmoil that is caused. It'll be upsetting for you and her if she wants a shower and is happy having that just let her come around in her own good time.

[DesautocaD]

I agree with the other posts. It might have been a dream or something she saw on TV. I would ‘t push her into having a bath. Give her the choice of being washed down at the sink. It might help if you treat it like no big deal. As kids grow they come up with lots of likes and dislikes. Just listen and be gentle.

[Nopayof]

From my experience too..

Past life issues will surface at the age that you exited the last life. For example.... in her past life, she drown in a lake, river, water tub, or well at age 3. Now this memory clicked in at the age this new body became.

All I can say is that this will pass, in the meantime, maybe try sink baths or just sponging off. She'll be fine and treat the fear as real... it is to her.

I know.. I've been afraid of water my whole life.. its NOT fun.


XO

[Uzezqelj]

Hi im asking for a little advice really...

My near 3 year old amber has recently rejected having a bath, she wont go into the tub with or without bubbles... lol, nor will she get into a shower, (which I didnt think she would anyway..)

I have no idea what has turned her away from having abath, its terrible forcing her, quickly washing her and getting her out when she is screaming, and clinging onto me..

Once out she is fine, like nothing has happened. I have taken her to the doctors had her checked out and she is medically fine... She hasnt had any bad experience in having a bath as I'm always with her....

I'm at my wits end as to why she is acting this way???? does anyone get a sense as to why this has happened.... and has anyone got any idea how I can make her like her bath's again....????

I have even tried getting in the bath to show her, but she wanted me out, and was frantic about it....

[TineSeign]

I have gone through phases with nieces and nephew's where they just don't want a bath! They just don't want to brush thier teeth, or hair or anything. But they usually could care less what anyone else does they can get a bath and whatever.

It seems that she wants you out of the water, and she doesn't want to go in the water either. It seems a fear for some reason. A fear of drowning? I remember having a dream when I was small. Our family car went off a bridge. I was trapped in the car, and couldn't get out. I was slowly being drowned. It was horrible! I was a bit nervous about going over bridges after that. Then there was an accident as an adult involving water. Now I am terrified of going over a bridge in a car. So perhaps she had some nightmare about drowning? Maybe baby swimming classes would help? Something to think about.

[Uzezqelj]

Hi and thanks for the idea.... Uriel's Apprentice,

Much appreciate it.....



Blessings

[pissmanvd]

The only thing I'm picking up is a basic childhood fear. My 7 year old son has recently become afraid of the bathroom doors being closed all the way. Thinking back, I had the same fear. So wondering if your mom might remeber you haveing the same fear around her age. I would start with asking her why she is afraid and if it's a "monster" cleanse the bathroom with sage. Then, I don't know if this work or not, but kids LOVE new toys, maybe talk to her why it is neccassry for her to take a bath, i.e, and take her to Walmart for a bath tub toy shopping spree, per say, and see if this will work. Buy maybe 3 new toys that she would love to have in the tub with her, even if it a stuffed animal that would be her tub buddy. on the first night or two, put less water in the tub and then play with the toys in the water and be the "voice " of the toy, tell her how much fun it is takeing a bath and how much they want her to play in the tub with them. Kids have very vivd imaginations at this age, try working on that and hopefully it will help. they have all kinds of cool toys for the tub. I think crayola has like these crayons that she can draw with in the tub and I saw this little mirmaid set as well. Be creative and have patience. I promise this to shall pass

[qp0yfHOf]

My guess is that maybe she had a bad dream about the bath but just can't articulate it or even remember it.

A great trick that works is when you guys are far from normal bath time start telling her a story about someone you know. "There once a girl named victoria who hated [insert non-bath situation/task]. She hated it so much that she would [insert her behavior: screaming, kicking, etc] and no one knew why." Then ask her if she knows why and/or how she thinks Victoria feels. That may give you a clue and then you can address it. Or you can make up a story about how you were once scared about taking a bath as a little girl. Say that you don't know why you were so scared and let her ask questions or finish the story for you.

It's funny because I just read my son a book about a girl who had the same behavior. Just one day got so upset at taking a bath and the mom had no clue why. Too bad the solution that worked was letting the girl get so dirty that they planted radish seeds on her and when the radishes sprouted it freaked the girl out so much she jumped right in the shower.

My other suggestion would be to just not push giving her a bath for a little while. You can use baby powder to control her hair. Just make sure to really lavish her with compassion saying "wow! you must be so scared! i wonder if there is anything I can do to help you feel better about taking a bath" and let it go if she doesn't respond or gets upset.

BTW, my son gets freaked out at baths if there is any change to the bathtub. A new location, even if there is a spot or hair in the tub that wasn't there before. Also fears about being sucked down the drain are common and can come on suddenly. Overall, let her have control over the situation while you show her empathy. It will help ease her back into taking a bath.

[avaiftBoara]

Did you check her to make sure she doesnt have a lttle yeast infection and the water is feeling almost like it is burning her??????

when they get that age we arent checking that area as close since we arent changing diapers any more..we make sure they wipe but ...you know lol

try letting her bathe in the kitchen sink... it is much smaller and up higher.. an you hav to stay close to her...see if that helps