[M_Marked]

Hello Gina,
I would just like to comfort you and say what a lovely caring person you are. My sister was a nurse and she said that sometimes people hang on when the family is there at the bedside. It appears that it's not unusual for them to pass over just as the family leaves. She is safe now and it is a blessing to know, she is not suffering.
Homeopathic remedies can be very effective in helping cope with grief. Take care.
skybird xx

[freflellalafe]

Dear Gina, facing lost of love ones is sad. I hope I'm able to give u some encouragement to change your thoughts. I came across forwarded email about Nick Vujicic few weeks back. Last Sunday I heard his preaching online, he's invited to Faith Community Baptist Church in Singapore on 2nd this month.
Take a look at his site, will sure enlighten u:
http://www.myspace.com/lifewithoutlimbs
Hope this really help.

[Jesslovers]

2 yrs. ago I lost my grandmother suddenly. I am a 35 y.o. married mother of 3, but since she has been gone, I feel like a child. I am consumed with grief, I still cry every night. The day she went to the e.r. it was for back pain, they admitted her for more tests,(she had the pain for 2 wks.), we didn't hear anything until 1 a.m. when they called my grandpa and told him she took a turn for the worse. I met him there while we waited for the rest of the family(they live 30 mins. away). We knew for about 3 yrs. she had a thoracic aortic aneurysm but it wasn' worth the risk to operate, when she first found out the dr. told her that & she would live fine as it was not very big. "Nothing to worry about". Any the back pain was part of the aneurysm, it had slowly been leaking. While we were in the hosp. she was alert but she couldn't talk because she was on life support. She was trying to tell us something by moving her eyes back & forth but I am not sure what. I will never forget the look in her eyes, she looked confused & scared. When everybody saw her, they put her to sleep & removed the life support. We stayed with her until 5:30 a.m. then everyone decided we should leave ( I wanted to stay with her but the family didn't want me to). I feel so guilty that she died alone. As I said we left at 5:30 a.m. and she died at 6:07 a.m. My mom & I lived with her and basically she raised me(my mom worked alot). I lost my Grandma that night but I also lost my mother & my best friend. I am sorry for going on like I have, but I needed to tell the story. Anyway I am just hoping someone will find it in their heart to help me get past this. I have tried almost everything so I am open to anything. Thank you so much & God bless you.

[ArrereGarhync]

Really sorry to hear of your loss. They are still with you all you need to do is remember them with the love you feel. Be open to the grief & work with it not against it. Things will always now feel different, time will only give you the space to accept your loss. That all I know. Lost only daughter 10 months ago in car accident.

[DoctoBuntonTen]

Firstly let me say that I am very sorry for your loss. I hope what I am about to say doesn't downplay your pain, for you have every right to grieve for as long as you need.

I lost my grandmother 6 years ago. She was the first person I was very close to in my life who died, and it was a very hard thing for me to deal with. Sometimes I still cry when I miss her.

That being said, let me share with you some things that have helped me. These last few years I have been on a quest to understand the true nature of reality and life. Although I am very, very far from finding any definative answers, there are some things I have realized to be true that have helped me deal with the subject of death.

I have gone from being very afraid of death to looking at it as another form of creation. In my opinion, we all have an eternal spirit, and the lives we live in physical bodies aren't quite as real as our existance in spirit. Each life we live is just a small stepping stone in the grand scheme of things. (I know it's very hard to see it that way). The way I see it, when our physical bodies die, we are in essence being reborn into spirit (reunited would be a better word). This has helped me to see that death is not an end, but rather a beginning to something new. And every birth and death we experience is just a continuation of something much larger than we can possibly fathom.

If you want to further explore the idea of death as a form of creation, I highly suggest you watch the film The Fountain. It's absolutely the most beautiful movie I have ever seen, and it encapsules just how beautiful death can be.

I know it doesn't feel like a beautiful thing to you, as you have lost someone who meant more to you than you can describe. But please realize that she is always there, and any time you need her, all you have to do is talk to her. Don't feel guilty for how things happened, just know that now that she is in spirit she feels nothing but love for you. Keep your eyes, ears, and mind open and I'm sure you will see signs everywhere that show you she is still around.

I also recommend a book called A Glimpse of Heaven to help you get a better understanding of the "after-life" and all that it encompases.

I hope this helped.