[ordercigsnick]

you know... you are so awesome. i don't care who you are. i already know you're awesome. ok... i guess that sounds fluffy... so let me back up...

i have this friend... shelia. shelia, me and this other core of good friends, all hang around and are into "spirit stuff". several of our group have very academia type paths they have taken...including shelia with her phd from an ivy league school.

ok... the good stuff.... sheila often complains, and somehow feels less then, and moreover left out, because she doesn't, "have all the cool spiritual experiences that the rest of the group has".

i first started hearing about this a year or so ago... and i disbeleivingly kinda laughed it off. this was because i had been at the time thinking to myself how in many ways, i felt shelia was really doing what was really useful on the spiritual path.

see, i had placed great value on what i found to be an amazing talent of hers: shelia could create certain kinds of spiritual/ physical space for people, that i was just facinated by. common langauge: she was so non judgemental, welcoming, allowing, slow to criticize etc., that people felt safe. she could effortlessly give people space to be who they were (w/o herself getting trampled). she could find bridge space and conversation for shy introverted christian bookworms to roll right out there with your fluffiest new age space case hippies and everyone felt loved. she could find common ground for such a diverse group of people that whiether they liked the conversation topics or not... they always felt comfortable. gatherings at her place always felt like you were home, like you had been expected... like you were such a contribution to the overall flow of things etc. and, she wasn't controlling, not in the least. that was the magic.... how she could do all of this so easily... so masterfully... that you didn't even feel the work of it. and she didn't like everybody... or rather let me say, there were some whose company she enjoyed more, but if you were in her home... she found the best in you and what was common and focused on that. i just loved it! i found it so facinating i started really quietly studying how she did it. i considered it such a valuable skill. my actual thought was, "wow, now this is kinda like what you read about people feeling when they hang around w/ acended masters." that accepting space.

so my shock when she was feeling completely inept, unworthy and downright useless as to her place in the group because she did not "do the cool spiritual stuff" as much.

i guess it just hurt, cause she couldn't see herself as neat as i did and i couldn't do anything about it.

all i can do is work with me. i try to remember to always look for each person's master talents and see if their intention of use is the classic sts or sto. i think the trick is not to expect the master talents that a person is currently manifesting to always be the flashy stuff that takes your breathe away. nothing wrong with flashy... they make it cool and fun and sometimes serve to help convey a message more clearly. (but you try random flashy w/ no story behind it and see how long it holds your interest.)

i feel like it is just value placement and priority: if you have an interest in developing your pychic gifts, people who do that seem "cool" maybe. conversely, if you have a current interest in say, improving your relationships ability....unless the "great intuitive" is gonna hang around with you and help you practice that, all that supposedly fascinating synchronisity and magic going on in their life ain't gonna mean so much to you.

the grass is always greener on the other side..? no!... apparently, it is greener anywhere you think you aren't! and, man, if there isn't a surer path straight to unhappiness, i don't know what is.

i guess (no, i know) i'm an optimist... everybody's gonna get to go on every ride they want to at the time when it happens. "we are niether inferior nor superior to anyone" (eckert tolle) and resovling that paradox brings peace.

dedicated to the "shelia" in us and everywhere.... we.... are.... awesome!

peace and love

darlyne

[agildeta]

(from one star to another)
dear darlyne,
thank you for this beautiful message! for reminding us that we are all awesome and precious souls (having a human experience) - and yes, we don't know (often) what gifts we bring to the world.
if only we could see the ripple effects of every positive thought, word and deed going out into the mass consciousness we would always value ourselves as bringers of light and love - but unfortunately we tend to wish we could be someone other than who we are and thus create unhappiness as you said...
thank you for the reminder - it is timely and welcome and appreciated more than you know...
with love,
kathy

[Stetbrate]

wanna know how i know youre awesome????


........cuz i'm awesome!!!!!! :d:d:d

seriously though...im so very appreciative of what i get to do here. i love the divine order of the cosmos and the utter beauty it produces.

...cant wait to leave this big gray lump in my head behind and truly remember what i know!!! if i think the world is amazing now? man! imagine what i'll think of it when i can remember more than 1 tenth of its wonders!!!!

[LClan439]

hey it's cool reading that because a friend of mine is almost the same story with the slight different thing, she knows it and controls it.

and yeah i know, i'm awesome and i rock

let's all be awesome together and sing wind of change

[sesWaipunsaws]

stargirl, you are awesome to be open and able to see the real beauty in each life, even if the person can not see it yet. you have the ability to bridge the grab and open another's vision to their own gifts seen through the mirror.

anyway, i was touched by your story and your appreciation of others in great and small contributions. don't you agree, each has its own purpose and value., otherwise, we would not be doing it.

ps: i hope you shared this story with the real person, i think they would enjoy this......

thanks again for sharing., awesome !

[Michael-jeckson2]

great synchronicity. i just finished writing a blog and i almost put "ps- i'm awesome." i didnt, however.

the next page i looked at was the general discussion here and this thread was on top.

thanks!

ps- i'm awesome! lol

[freevideoandoicsI]

thanks for the thread, stargirl, it's awesome. this is probably most people's biggest issue, it is with me, anyway. it's good to be reminded. the people on this forum are awesome, david is awesomeness personified. dare i say i'm awesome too? uhh.... not quite there yet, but it will come, it will come.

[lapyignipinge]

darlyne,

thank you for sharing this. my name is sheila too. lol. and although the constant thoughts in my mind are to find spirit and truth. i am always wondering why i am always here in the 3rd dimension. i am like your friend always non-judging. overly accepting and am brilliant with making people feel good. but i am starting to also, know that my anxiety about coming out of the 3rd dimention might have some ego relation- so i back off and try to be happy about the person i am. this is a great story to share because it takes a long while to evolve like dw even he, says this. i am trying to learn patience and know the law is "perfect" with how ready we are for growth. but, we are hard on ourselves when we look at how far we have come so far.