[zoneouddy]

i need some serious help figuring this out everyone. i've tried to understand it on my own , i've tried to ask my higher self but i'm getting no where.

everything in our lives is a mirror for us showing what we need to work on right? or is it our reaction to everything in our lives that shows us what we need to work on? if our lives is a direct mirror then i've got some serious issues!!

this is my life: my mother is dying, my father has parkinsons and has a really hard time communicating. they don't live near me and it drives me crazy that i'm not there to help more.

my mother in law that we take care of has dementia, my husband seems to be constantly negative and miserable these days,my son has just started hanging out with a "new" friend who's idea of a good time is staying out all night, getting bombed out of their minds or stoned. his new friend spent 4 days in jail last week.

my boss just had a heart attack and is extrememly dejected about certain things that are going on in his life.

my dog is a nervous wreck lately because we've been having a thunderstorm a day.

meanwhile, there's me.... i am actually quite happy and excited these days. of course i feel concern and worry for all of the issues that are affecting my family but on the other hand i am learning some amazing things, feeling great strides in my spiritual growth. i am in a conundrum. i almost feel guilty for feeling good when everyone else is falling apart.

what does all this mean? where do i go from here? i have no desire to wallow in misery and negativity and want to be understanding and able to help in any way i can.

thanks everyone for helping me out here.

love,

megan

[samanthalueus]

i think it might be catalyst or facing our shadow. imo, we are being forced by our own selves to grow and learn. i have empathy for you because many times, it has felt as if i landed in some sort of hell and yet, i am learning from it. i ask my higher self if i couldn't perhaps learn a little easier, and it is getting easier inside. here are some ideas that may help.

three aspects of enlightened living:

non-attachment
non-judgment
non-resistance

and always know that this too will pass.

wishing you the best,

dagaz

[Rounteetepehryn]

i need some serious help figuring this out everyone. i've tried to understand it on my own , i've tried to ask my higher self but i'm getting no where.

everything in our lives is a mirror for us showing what we need to work on right? or is it our reaction to everything in our lives that shows us what we need to work on? if our lives is a direct mirror then i've got some serious issues!!

this is my life: my mother is dying, my father has parkinsons and has a really hard time communicating. they don't live near me and it drives me crazy that i'm not there to help more.

my mother in law that we take care of has dementia, my husband seems to be constantly negative and miserable these days,my son has just started hanging out with a "new" friend who's idea of a good time is staying out all night, getting bombed out of their minds or stoned. his new friend spent 4 days in jail last week.

my boss just had a heart attack and is extrememly dejected about certain things that are going on in his life.

my dog is a nervous wreck lately because we've been having a thunderstorm a day.

meanwhile, there's me.... i am actually quite happy and excited these days. of course i feel concern and worry for all of the issues that are affecting my family but on the other hand i am learning some amazing things, feeling great strides in my spiritual growth. i am in a conundrum. i almost feel guilty for feeling good when everyone else is falling apart.

what does all this mean? where do i go from here? i have no desire to wallow in misery and negativity and want to be understanding and able to help in any way i can.

thanks everyone for helping me out here.

love,

megan

i think you are analysing things to much... so much your actually worried about not doing the right thing. listen... your under no obligation to 'seize the moment', your higher self will not be displeased if you dont see each oppurtunity for evolution. lots of people go through life without concerning themselfs with growing spiritually, and are quite happy and sometimes more loving than dedicated truthseekers... just do what you think is right and have more time for yourself, take a break and do something you enjoy.. its not all about work.
you forget that each of us has our own trials so you also represent something to the people you know, someone they can learn from. feeling guilty for feeling good is something you can work on though...
i think you should let your son do his thing.... most young guys go through a partying/getting stoned till the early hours stage.. its one of those things... hes probably having the time of his life having hour long conversations about pink floyd records.

[Teligacio]

this is a harsh perspective, similar circumstances in my life have made me realize that everyone creates their own reality. the hardest lesson for me was that you cannot push someone up a ladder. you have the choice to participate in their reality and make it your own, or rise above it. it seems that i had guilt over not wanting to participate in what was unhappy/unhealthy in my world. i think i am getting over it now. i still communicate with my family on a regular basis and care very much. instead of getting sucked down by it i try to 'shine' and show them a way out. it is the free will clause, and the manifestation of their 'intent' that puts them where they are and they are the only ones that can change it.
do not let their expectations of you 'create' you. create yourself.
that is how/where i have achieved peace with the misfortunes of others.
i read somewhere, email for link, that the creation favors good by mirroring that which you intend first to the intender, then out to the universe. in this way the negative self destruct and the positive thrive. look around, there is truth in this concept. imo

[sasquatch999]

hi megan

personally i think it is our reaction to everything in our lives that shows us what we need to work on, at least in my experience.

we certainly cannot help the fact that people get sick or are being negative and miserable and we certainly can’t avoid them when they are our loved ones and need us.

but look at what you have said, despite the fact that both of your parents are very sick, as is your mother-in-law who lives with you, and your son and your husband are giving you grief, even your dog’s having trouble, you are “actually quite happy and excited these day”.

it is likely your reaction to all the difficulties around you in staying positive and happy showing you that you are on the right track and to just keep doing what you are doing.

[johnbeller]

hi megan , david explains some of this in his first project camelot appearance. he describes the nature of causality and it's association with with negative greetings. going out of our way to do a little extra work on planetary lightenment has it's effects. i'm not sure what to advise here so please research this further for yourself before taking this literally.

the idea is that when an entety peaks out the veil, it is like sticking your head out of the water, exposing yourself, attracting balance to what ever you put out. the more work we do, the stronger we need to be to protect our reality from negative greetings. these greetings will target the weak spots, if we practice meditation and repel negative greetings then they move on to other people close to us instead. this understanding is touching on complex material and raises a lot of questions.

how do we protect others around us from this?
how do we steer negative greetings away from loved ones?
do we need to leave a crack in the door for negative greetings?
do we sacrafice part of ourselves to satisfy the greeting?
do we amass enough energy to handle the greetings once and for all?
or should we just put our trust in faith and simply let things be?

i know it's hard to watch people suffer, it's almost like they are creating it for themselves in order to speed up their learning process, and maybe lightworkers are helping with the transfer of energy, expanding the conduit and allowing more catalyst to emerge. who knows maybe everything will turn out for the best............................sylvain........... ..............

[AndyColemants]

this is an interesting question. it's difficult watching someone else suffering. for quite a lot of my life i used to feel like i had the weight of the world on my shoulders, also that i had no right to be happy as long as there were all those suffering out there.

then came the information that there is a divine plan in each person's life, and that each is on a personal journey that is unique to them and can't be judged by someone else. i had my own suffering to deal with, which may not have involved starvation or being bombed, but to me was just as painful as any other situation.

now my focus is on making myself as happy as possible, because that is the only way i will be in a position to be of service to others. i don't think the negative situations in your life is a mirror of you, i find that my mirrors are the people i meet that i have a strong reaction to, which shows me there is something about myself i am being made aware of.

the people close to me, my family, is going through a lot of suffering right now. and i'm on the other side of the world doing my own thing, happy as can be, but i stay in touch and know what they're going through. i would love to wave a magic wand and make everybody better. but i guess it doesn't work that way.

[zoneouddy]

non-attachment
non-judgment
non-resistance i think you are analysing things to much... so much your actually worried about not doing the right thing personally i think it is our reaction to everything in our lives that shows us what we need to work on, at least in my experience. or should we just put our trust in faith and simply let things be this is an interesting question. it's difficult watching someone else suffering. for quite a lot of my life i used to feel like i had the weight of the world on my shoulders, also that i had no right to be happy as long as there were all those suffering out there sometimes i think we just have to throw our thoughts out to the universe (in this case this wonderful forum) and the answers come tumbling in.

i am now thinking that with myself that i have been judging these experiences too much and feeling responsible for them and then also feeling that it is up to me to "fix" them. when in fact all is as it should be and there is nothing to fix. sometimes that is hard to grasp when people are suffering.


we do create our own reality however so does everyone else.

. hes probably having the time of his life having hour long conversations about pink floyd records those were the days!! it can be difficult being a mother. i know that i did exactly the same thing at the same age and i try not to be a control freak but my husband is of the mind (even though he starting partying when he was a lot younger) that we should kick him out for this behaviour.

i don't have that extreme a view by any means i just don't think i should encourage drinking and drug use. there are many no going back drugs out there these days so i can't help being a little worried.

thanks for all your advice everyone.

take care,

love megan

[L8fGLM4d]

i feel compelled to offer a small amount of ... um, insight? based on my personal experiences over the last few months.

i've been in ghana for the last year, several thousand miles away from my family in slc ut. i will preface this by saying, also, that the issues i'll be mentioning are actually combining together to bring me home to ut in about a month (a full year earlier than planned).

basically every member of my family who i have any contact with has, to some extent, been plagued over the last few months with nasty often health-based catalyst. i've been sick alot in ghana, too, but that's beside the point because i've been generally feeling quite well due to spiritual progression/work. what i discovered is that i can go into a certain meditative state and help to heal them with surprisingly good results. i will describe how i do it (which is not based on any specific "energy healing system" since i've had no training at all) in the case that it may be useful to you. if you don't find it useful, simply ignore this post. (honestly, i don't particularly like to write about this sort of thing because it makes me feel like i'm trying to force my perspective on others, but i'll post this with the understanding that it can be completely ignored if it's not useful!)


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beginning of explanation:

i first lay down in a comfortable position with my head/back propped up slightly. i suspect any position where you are comfortable to meditate in is just fine.

after taking a few breaths i begin to imagine a tetrahedron (like half of the merkaba) which i let spin as a wire-frame in my mind's eye and slowly allow it to position itself as a triangle with a vertex pointing up and the other vertex pointing directly toward me. i use this image because it has some personal resonance and because it's very simple; i suspect any shape/image which resonates with you would be as effective or moreso. for me, the image naturally wants to rotate so the process of causing it to reach stillness/equilibrium is consonant with reaching a stillness of my own mind.

once this stillness happens i try to hold the image in my mind while also focussing on bringing the energy up through my chakras along my spine until it reaches through the crown chakra and into my third eye at which point a full meditative state of visualization ability is typically reached. i have no idea how/if this will work for anyone else, but whatever process works is worth using i suppose.

after reaching the aforementioned state, i consciously imagine the person who i wish to offer healing in some environment which i know is normal for them -- usually their home. it doesn't really matter, from my experience, if this person is actually in that space at the time the work is being done. at this point i "imagine" the person's higher self and/or conscious will and offer it my service and suggest that any work i do i will leave for that being in a state of potential which their "self" can then choose to accept/integrate or deny/dissipate. this is my personal method for avoiding will infringement. i used to go without this step but i would occasionally notice karma/troubles shortly after performing the "healing" at which point i eventually realized that i had not been asking their self if they actually wished to receive the healing. if you intend to use some form of the process i'm outlining here i highly recommend including some isomorphism of this step...

after this i allow myself to imagine the "energy body" of the person -- it appears in my mind's eye like light-streamers following the major nerve networks and vital organs of the body. bones appear sort of transparent white. chakras appear in various states from muddy blurs to solid light-emitting stones of their various colors. i have no idea how this will choose to appear for anyone else who attempts this process so please don't judge yourself by how similar it is to my statements or judge my statements by how similar it is to your own potential experiences. the important part of this commentary is that areas which are "out of balance" or "blocked" will appear as dark and/or black muddy/gooey/oily masses usually clumped around various argans/nerve centers of the energy body. this is all viewed in my "internal vision' or "imagination". whatever you wish to call it.

i eventually, upon trying to figure out how to balance and/or remove these blockages, happened upon the following imagery: a flat plane of light like a screen which i imagine as being able to "burn away" the black goup without affecting the normal state of the light body. i imagine this screen in my mind along with the person and their environment and then slowly move it through their body -- usually form top to bototm but it doesn't seem to matter... the only thing i find particularly useful is to make sure that it's done in a way so that the screen goes through the whole cros-section of their body, otherwise the goup seems to like to slide off the edge and back into its spot of blockage. whatever imagery works for you is great.. this is what i've found to work best for me.

after several passes of the screen there is usually very little goup left, but i keep going until i don't sense it at all. once it's gone, the places where the goup was clinging usually are lacking alot of their normal radiant characteristics of the healthy state. so what i've been doing is imagining a healing light to appear and rebuild those sections as per whatever blueprint they have -- there's very little conscious participation in this process... it somehow just seems to happen when i "allow" it to.

sometimes if the chakras are particularly muddy i will "create" gemstones of the corresponding colors and place them in position where they can be used to enhance the healing/balancing of those centers. remember, this is all, as per my imagination, happening in time/space where it is only a sort of phantom of the real body which can then be used by the person's super/sub conscious will to reflect on their physical state. my understanding is that i'm not, by doing this, actually tampering with any real aspect of the person without their acceptance of it.

once this is all done i again imagine their will/self and thank them for allowing me to perform this working and wish them well. at this point i am usually totally invigorated and in a crazy-strong-deep state of meditaiton/visualization and have to spend some time to allow the "magical personality" to dissipate. if i immediately open my eyes i find that i am often quite disoriented, so i don't recommend it personally.

i want to again make it very clear that i'm not saying that this is a best or only way of doing this type of work, because i have no concept of the truth of those statements. what i will say is that i've consistently found that within very short amounts of time from doing this work i will discover via real-waking-life experiences that the person is beginning to recover and/or feel better in some way. i did it for my uncle who was having a major bout of depression/alcoholism/heart trouble and the next day i got a call from my dad who said that his brother was beginning to have a turnaround and that his symptoms were highly diminished. i didn't tell him i did this.

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i'm hesitating to press the send button, but i guess i'll let this message through. please don't judge me or yourself by what i've written here, but if some element of the technique feels in resonance with you, then use any portion of it as you will. i feel like in my own situation i've been able to make a real and noticable impact on the wellbeing of my family to the point that my family's various health problems are not really involved in my decision to leave a year early from peace corps ghana. the economic and logistical aspects of my parents' retirement, however, are something i can't really do anything about from ghana and demand my return home.

i wish you luck in your own journey and hope that this writing was of some benefit to you. i believe anyone who is awakening on a spiritual path can exercise profound healing effects on those who are close to them, and the point of explaining this specific method is only in hope of providing a guide for your own realization of this potential.

best wishes,
charles cox

[HoniSoniproca]

your story made me think of a movie called: the prizewinner of defiance ohio. maybe there's a message in there for you.

eaglesong

[zoneouddy]

hey charles,

don't ever feel bad for trying to help. that was very kind of you to share your methods for helping others.

i have myself tried to send love, healing and prayers to friends and family members who are not well. i didn't really have a decent "system or method" of doing it and am inspired by your success. maybe i will give it a try.

when my mother became ill this last time i asked her if she wanted me to research any alternative treatments or anything, and she was adamant that she didn't want me to. she had been helped "cured" a couple of times by mainstream medicine so that's where she has chosen to place her trust and that is her right.

it is hard to see her suffer but i am pretty sure she believes in the doctors prognosis and so the outcome will be as he stated.

best of luck to you and your family on your return. it can be tough dealing with aging parents.

megan

p.s. eaglesong, i googled that movie and there were a ton of great reviews regarding it so i may have to give it a look. i'm curious now!

[prmnwoks]

hi megan;
highest blessings to you! i'm sure you'll do fine with this catalyst, just like you made it thru previous challenges with flying colors. remember that you're not responsible for anybody else and their "problems." your task is simply to be. here. now. find the love in this moment. this very moment has the potential to be whatever you choose for it. your only limit is your imagination/belief.

sometimes all that's required is your mere presence, so that your higher vibration of light can radiate out and bless all those around you. if you could only see what a powerful effect you have on those around you; how the earth herself is blessed by footprints of light as you walk on her.

sometimes it appears that those around us are not living up to their highest potential, and that can be a bit disturbing to those of us who place a high priority on spiritual growth and development. just know that all is in divine perfect order, and do not confuse them with their actions. sometimes their actions may seem petty or lacking in some way, and yet they are a manifestation of the one infinite creator, and when you look at them as such it can rekindle a spark within them and help them remember their true essence.

[glasscollector]

it kind of makes you wonder how to behave or respond when some one is suffering in your presence even death itself is a confusing experience.

but if you think about it in energy terms if you were suffering or dieing would you like the people around you to be projecting there confusion and torment at you or joy and happiness .

i have noticed that people my self included tend to mimic those around them selves to blend into the crowd so to speak so they don't stand out or appear odd when in reality they don't feel the same as what they are projecting.

better to be positive and happy and express it when the alternative is to hide your self behind guilt... unless you are the cause of the suffering that is.
another odd thing that i have noticed is that some times people whom are suffering almost expect you to suffer with them but i believe this to be a western type mind set as
those in third world countries seem to be happy regardless of there predicament.

of course they would prefer to have food shelter and safety who wouldn't but mostly they seem to stay positive, i am sure most westerners would give up and die long before they
reached the physical state that people in a third world country manage to endure.

being miserable when your not is dishonest to say the least not to mention a waste of ones time better to share your happiness and joy while you have it i say.

[prmnwoks]

it kind of makes you wonder how to behave or respond when some one is suffering in your presence even death itself is a confusing experience.

this reminds me of a poem written by oriah mountain dreamer where one line says "i want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it"

she wrote this poem late one night after coming home from a party where she was very disappointed by the pompous egotistical fronts projected by those who consider you a nobody if you're not in a high position at some famous company, or young, rich and glamorous. as she was wondering whatever happened to honest and true soul-to-soul connections, she put her thoughts down on paper, and it has become one of my favorites. here's the rest of it;
it doesn't interest me what you do for a living. i want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

it doesn't interest me how old you are. i want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

it doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. i want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain! i want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.

i want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

it doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. i want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithlessand therefore trustworthy.

i want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.

i want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “yes!”

it doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. i want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

it doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. i want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

it doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. i want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.

i want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.