[Redys]

When I left home I said to myself that when I got my first house on my own (after uni) then I'd get a cat as I missed the cat which I'd grown up with, so roll on a few years, bought my house and adopted 2 cats Palinka and Ouzo from a local rescue place. Everything was fine for ages, got 2 more cats, they all got on, everyone was happy. Palinka then started visiting one of the across the garden neighbours regularly and eventually moved in with her. I did try to get advice from the cat rescue people on how to stop my cat from going there all the time but we agreed it was probably down to the posh cat food that she fed her cat (and then put outside once he'd eaten as much as he wanted) and they told me that there was nothing I could do. I accepted it as I still saw my cat in the gardens and knew that the other woman was taking good care of him, she'd agreeed to keep me informed on how he was and if he got ill etc. Again fast forward a bit, and I had Palinka's new owner coming round saying that he was very aggressive with her other cats and she didn't know what to do. We had a good chat, I said that maybe he'd settle down in time, she tried Feliway (the hormone spray thing that calms cats down) and then we just said it must be one of those things and she'd have to see what happened.
So today, i was looking on the cat rescue place's website and saw that one of their cats to rehome was called Palinka - bit of a coincidence so I clicked on the link and lo and behold saw that it was my cat that the new owner has given back to the rescue place!! She hadn't told me anything about it, and they've put that he left my house because he didn't get on with the new cats and then didn't get on with her cats so needs to be rehomed to a place with no cats.
I have emailed them to see if I can have him back but I'm not sure if they'll let me as he may just try to go back to the other woman, but I don't like the idea of him going somewhere else. I know that the rescue place (which is run by two woman) vet every new home themselves and wouldn't let him go anywhere that he would be unsafe, but he was my first cat and I love him to pieces, he is so affectionate and loving. I have explained to them that I asked for their advice before and they couldn't give me any, and that it wasn't anything to do with him hating my other cats as he either just ignored the other cats or would curl up with them when he was in the mood.
I don't know what else to do, I'd love to have him back home, even when he moved in with the neighbour my ex (who still comes round loads as friends) woudl still bring him into the house sometimes for cuddles but I think he's going to be sent somewhere else to live and I won't see him again :-(((

Sorry for the long post, I'm just really sad about my cat and thought people on here would understand. If anyone in Cardiff area would like a very loving and affectionate big black cat (he's about 6.5yrs old) then please let me know so that I can try to get him housed with you, as I'd prefer him go to a member on here who obviously loves animals (or why would you be a member of this forum) than to an unknown home if you see what I mean?

[soonahonsefalh]

Oh no Sorry to hear that. Can't believe she just sent him to a rescue centre without telling you. I really hope that you can find a solution where he comes back to you or goes to someone you know. I'd be absolutely gutted but have my fingers crossed for you that they let you have him back.

[Redys]

Thanks, they haven't replied yet, but I could kind of understand if they won't let me have him back as he'd probably try to go back round to the other woman's house. I couldn't keep him inside as he loves exploring and spends hours and hours outside. I've asked if I could have him back on a trial or something if they don't want to commit to him coming back in case of problems. And he's probably all angry at being kept in a cage (although they are fairly big with an outside section and inside section) at the rescue place. My poor baby!!

[soonahonsefalh]

Is he neutered? Just wondering if that could be causing him to roam further?

[Redys]

Yeah he was done as soon as he was old enough. I read that un-neutered cats are generally the ones to roam but it's typical that my cat is contrary!! I've just had an email back from the rescue place saying that they've got a couple of homes already lined up and he's settled in fine at the shelter and seemes very content. I'm pleased that he's happy and will have a home to go to soon I guess, but also sad cause I won't ever see him again :-( I've asked them to keep me updated on him, at least until he's rehomed.
I'm so angry at my neighbour though! We'd agreed that she'd always tell me how he was/what he was up to etc, and then she goes and does this! She knows how much I loved that cat, grrrrrrrrr.

[cheesypeetyz]

Unlucky. I hate situations like that where it's hard to find a winning solution. Good luck though, I hope it works out in a way you can still see him sometimes even if it's not back with you full time.

[ImmitsRom]

So sorry to hear about Palinka, that was a mean thing of your neighbour to do without even letting you know, you must be heartbroken. Perhaps you could ask the rescue if they would explain his past to his new owners and ask if they would contact you and let you know how he's doing in his new home? I'm sure they wouldn't mind keeping you updated, if you just gave them an e-mail address or something then they could choose whether to contact you or not. It's difficult with cats, they tend to own us rather than we them, if they decide to move it's very difficult to get them to stay. My mum has a cat that used to belong to a neighbour, he just moved in and no matter how many times she took him back he just used to turn up again. In the end the neighbour gave him to mum but as mum is in her 80's he offered to pay any vets bills bless him, he was gutted and still comes round sometimes to see him.

[Redys]

Yeah, if she'd at least told me and given me the chance to see him before he went then at least I could have said goodbye to him. Hopefully the rescue place will keep in touch, I think that's a good idea about asking them to pass my email to his new owners - worth a try!
I accepted him moving out into her house cause I know that if a cat chooses to go, then he'll go, and I managed to explain that to my ex who still thinks the woman 'stole' our cat (he's never had a cat before, never wanted one, but is now so soppy over all of ours), but at least we still saw Palinka in the gardens, and he'd pop in sometimes to the house to see us (or my ex would bring him in for cuddles). Oh well, at least he'll be happy in his new home, wherever it is.
Thanks everyone for taking the time to read n reply, I knew you guys would get it!!

[nAKMzyBN]

Awwww wow that's quite a tough situation. I can't believe she didn't tell you!! I can understand about the not getting on with other cats thing and I think she had good intentions but definitely went about it the wrong way. I hope the rescue centre do understand but if he isn't happy in a house with other cats he would just move on any way (cats are selfish-which is why I love them so much lol) so they go where ever they are happiest. If you do get him back, make a fuss of him and give him his own little bed in your room or something where he can shy away from the others (although, knowing cats, they would get jealous of his bed and kip in it themselves lol). I really do hope the situation works out best for you and palinka though

[soonahonsefalh]

Did they let you know where he's going to be rehomed yet?