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07-16-2010, 04:09 PM
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 Parents of Adult Children...
Hello PBC "parents-of-adult-children-who-are-moving-out-of-town"...
I have a question... Say you and your child acquired a dog 6 years ago, and since then your child has been the primary care giver of that dog... But, because your child was a minor, his or her name was not on the "official" paperwork of said dog... And let us say that said dog is your adult child's best friend/therapist/"Heart Dog" if you will... And let us say that you, as a parent, own 8 other dogs that you really do not do much with (And have all gotten considerably fatter since your child has left the house)... Would you let your child take said dog with them to their new apartment- only 3 hours away? Providing, of course, that it was approved by both their room mates and landlord... |
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07-16-2010, 04:27 PM
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Ummmm....yes...I would wonder why that would actually even be a question.
I hope you're not having a problem along these lines; that would suck. BTW...I actually opted not to have children...but if I did...they would be adults by now. 
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07-16-2010, 04:40 PM
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anything that I got for my sons when they were growing up, was theirs.. and when they went on their own they took their stuff with them....
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07-16-2010, 04:41 PM
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Ummmm....yes...I would wonder why that would actually even be a question.  Unfortunately, it's not hypothetical....
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07-16-2010, 04:42 PM
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When I moved out to college a year ago, I took Liberty, who had lived with my me, my mom, and my brother for 8 years. I'm not a parent, but I'm an 'adult child' who took their dog with them. I don't see a problem with it, as long as the 'child' can properly care for the dog (money, time, etc).
I also rent a private townhouse with a fenced backyard, so I'm not on campus or anything like that. |
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07-16-2010, 04:43 PM
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I am not a parent, but my parents helped take care of Cuddles while I was in college, and Dad encouraged me to take Cuddles, but they aren't really dog people.
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07-16-2010, 04:45 PM
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it depends, if you have say 3 adult children, as in my family's case, we only had one dog, but say we had a lot and we all wanted to take the same dog, then no, if we wanted different ones then yes. I know my parents did not let my sister take Dirk because there were three of us, and he was on the end of his life so they wanted him to stay with the 2 kids that were not yet adults and out of the house.
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07-16-2010, 05:27 PM
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Of course I would, in that situation. It sounds like the "child" is best for the dog. It would be different if the parent had taken care of the dog and the "child" was not responsible.
I'm not sure what end of this you're on, and I'm sorry if you're the "child". If you are the parent, step up and do what's right for your child and the dog. |
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07-16-2010, 06:06 PM
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At first I thought Jack; but he's younger than V. and she's only 4... Sorry you're dealing with this sweetie 
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07-16-2010, 06:08 PM
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Who is it you want to take? |
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07-16-2010, 06:37 PM
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Do you have your name on "unofficial" paperwork like receipts for training classes, dog supplies (food, meds, collars, vet visits)? If you used a debit card, you should be able to obtain records of older transactions to show that you have also contributed financially to the care and upkeep of this dog.
Good luck, I hope ultimately the decision that is made is what's best for Howie and you. |
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07-16-2010, 07:53 PM
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Hello PBC "parents-of-adult-children-who-are-moving-out-of-town"... |
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07-16-2010, 10:26 PM
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Michelle, in your case I would allow the dog to leave with you. For my own two kids ( 21 &19 y/o boys ) I would only allow my youngest son to take a dog with him. Even though my oldest is, well, older, I feel as though my youngest son has a better respect for the dogs and the breed on the whole and I would trust in him that he would do right by the dog.
So I guess my answer is circumstancial, if you have all the green lights from roomies and LL then I would trust that you would take care of your dog much as you have done for him in the past. The only change that will really be happening is the new area code. As for the roomates and such, I would be wary of thier handling skills and that alone would more than likely lead me to deny my son permission to remove the dog from my property. I trust my youngest son 100% with any of my dogs however I would be very concerned about roomates and the like. Tough call, I guess I would really need to know the roomates and they would have to prove thier trust in some fashion or another before one of my dogs moved in with them. |
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07-17-2010, 08:15 PM
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Absolutely.
And call me if you need to. We can stage a undercover ops. 
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07-17-2010, 08:33 PM
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my mom expects me to take my two dogs with me if i move lol
she loves them but i am their primary care-taker and their mommy she is thwir grandma |
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07-17-2010, 09:34 PM
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Same here, we got Rhys with the intent of him being my dog, and I cover all his bills and such, and even though my mom and step-dad like him, they would be furious if I didn't take him with me, lol. Only problem is me finding a job now...
If the "child" took care of the dog previously I would definitely expect them to take the dog and continue to care for them just as well as they have been. |
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07-17-2010, 10:09 PM
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When I moved on my own I was in no way ready to take the dog my parents got for me. I was 17 and living in a small and ghetto apartment in a crappy neighborhood plus working full time. A couple years later when I was ready I decided to let my dog stay with my mom as she was bedridden and they were close. The dog was older and that was her home in addition to her being my moms companion. But my parents gave me the option to take her provided I could care for her. Instead, I left her in her home with my mom who was very attached and got another dog for myself.
My 3 dogs are mine and my husbands and the kids aren't taking them when they move out. They can get their own when they are ready. However, if one or more of the dogs were bought for one or more of my kids I would let them have their dog if they were in a stable living situation and responsible enough to provide proper care. |
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07-18-2010, 04:12 PM
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Everytime I have moved I have taken my dogs with me. I would cause an uproar if I was not allowed my dogs because they are my rock. They are the most stable things I have in my life. My Mom recently stole Brutus from me claiming that I had been mistreating him because he was "too skinny and on a chain all day." Riiight. Whatever, I ever so politely told her that the next time she tried to liberate my dog that I would be calling the cops and reporting her. She hasn't mentioned Brutus since. I think that you should just take the dog and they will get over it. Its YOUR dog so it goes with YOU.
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07-18-2010, 04:58 PM
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I KNEW it was Howie!!!! He is YOUR DOG!! ARe they in love with him or do they just not want you to take him?!? Time for some stealth maneuvers!!!
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07-20-2010, 03:09 AM
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As for the roomates and such, I would be wary of thier handling skills and that alone would more than likely lead me to deny my son permission to remove the dog from my property. Well, they are both bulldog people (Although, they own a catahoula at the moment) and Howie isn't exactly... difficult. He's an overweight, elderly American bully...
I did work it out with them, once I get myself settled up here I'll have my old man with me again 
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