[rvadipoldkov]

I personally would not allow that person near my dogs again. I would do the obligatory holiday dinners with him BUT NEVER at my house and would never bring the dog to their house EVER again.

That said, I would have no respect fr him and thus would treat him that way.

Courtney

[CHyLmxDr]

WOW! Would be tough if your spouse is pushing you to try again. I honestly couldn't do it. I don't care for my FIL as it is but put up with him because he is family, after an incident with my dog, he would no longer be family in my eyes or welcome in my home. At the very least, like everyone said, please don't ever let your dog around him again if you do give him a seventh chance....

Has he even apoligized? Is it just everyone else that wants you to give him a seventh chance?

[immewaycypef]

He really sounds like a stubborn old f**k, that doesn't listen or believe in much logic. I'd stay away, sounds like you gave him enough chances.

[Rinkeliacasse]

He really sounds like a stubborn old f**k, that doesn't listen or believe in much logic. I'd stay away, sounds like you gave him enough chances.

This describes him exactly, and no he has never apologized. It is other family that pushes me to give him another chance. But after this, no more, no more.

[MicoSiru]

I feel for you. I had to go through a less-violent but equally disrespectful situation with my future in-laws and my dogs earlier this spring.

I think if people want to be welcome in your home, they have to respect it. If they can't they're no longer welcome.

[emexiagog]

If you really have to do it (for whatever reason.. your wife is asking you or whatever) I would do it in neutral grounds (like a restaurant...) and work from there.. I wouldn't get him anywhere near my dogs anyway.

[FotoCihasWewb]

He does sound like an asshole, but to a lot of people dogs are pretty much the lowest of the low. Don't look at me when I'm eating, don't lick my hand, don't sniff me, don't touch my things, ect.
And depending on his age and how was raised, beating a dog really is nothing wrong at all. I still get pissed when I think of the things my father did to our old GSDs, he found out that our female chewed his motorcycle helmet the night before - the female who whelped five litters for him to sell - he took the chewed helmet and beat her with it while she tried running away. His father did the same, HE punched a small dog off of a grooming table when it snapped at him out of fear. My brothers treat animals that way now too. The one who owns a bulldog beat it with a metal broomstick until the stick was bent because the dog bit him on the hand.

I'm not defending your FIL, it was WRONG. But he might just view dogs like a lot of people do, and to him it's not like hitting your child. Though I know older people these days who would still take it upon themselves to slap your badly behaved child. My GFIL slapped my niece good when she stuck her tongue out at him, right in front of us.

If you want things to be decently comfortable, don't bring the dog near them, and have get-togethers if your wife wants to, for her, not for him.

Why does it always seem that the wife's/GF's father is an A-hole? LOL