[Dyslermergerb]

It happened to me again today! I took my Bubba to a state park in PA on the Deleware River. We walked around for awhile and then went down to the river bank. We started playing ball so I took him off leash. I could see down the river and there was two dogs farther down with a woman but Bubba was interested in the ball, not the dogs. He got tired of the ball so we started doing some training excercises. I noticed the woman started to come towards us so I put on the leash. When she got close I said hello but she gave me no reply. I said how you doing? She walked by like we weren't even there! Most people at least say hi or engage in some small talk about their dog(s) and mine. I hate when people are that rude! Any others encounter rudeness like this?

[DghtRdc]

Wow, that is rude! People are weird, seriously. I usually try to make some sort of eye contact first, if they dont look back, then I dont say anything to them. If they look back, then I'll say Hi. Some people just dont talk to strangers.. I try not to take it too personal.

Sorry though.. Id have said hi to ya.

[siklop]

I've moved your thread to the General Dog Discussion forum, Chit Chat is for NON-dog related topics.

[zuhraliyana]

Wow, I've been through the same thing. People truly can be very very rude simply because of how your dog looks. I too agree don't take it personally, even though it can get hard at times.

[freediscountplanrrxip]

I wonder if this was about the kind of dog you have, or if it had more to do with being alone, in an isolated area by a riverbank.....
some women do not like talking to strangers, when they feel that the situation makes them vulnerable.... maybe she just wanted to get away from what to her was a potentially dangerous situation as soon as possible... could be she was just uncomfortable..

[gWhya5ct]

I wonder if this was about the kind of dog you have, or if it had more to do with being alone, in an isolated area by a riverbank.....

That is exactly what i thought, i doubt it was because of your dog, because he was well restrained and behaved.

[FUNALA]

I hate when people are that rude! Any others encounter rudeness like this? I live in New York. This is normal behavior over here

Seriously, I think some people just don't want to be bothered, whether it be just to say hello or have conversation. I know that when I'm sitting by the ocean relaxing, I just want to be by myself and honestly, hope no one says anything to me. I would not take it personally or think that it is because of the breed of dog you have.

[Arr34ston]

its even more rude when you know the person. i shook hands with this guy i introduced myself to at work. We talked for a good hour at work. Well next day came i said hi helllo how are you doing i said it preety loud he didnt even look at me or said hi. Never talked to that ass hole again. I Wouldnt pay no mind for those rude people something is wrong with them not you. You will get farther in life than they will.

[DoctorGordanBens]

That's normal behaviour where I'm from. Being from a Northern city esp. as a woman you do not talk to strangers. This goes double for a strange man with a pit bull. Strange men are viewed as dangers (stranger danger - any city folk remember that as kids?), but strange men with a pit bull or with tattoos or with a motorcycle or a pickup truck with a gun rack - anything even remotely "threatening" will discourage a city woman from talking to you. Even if you are as harmless as the easter bunny, she won't see it that way. Nothing personal, it's just the way we're raised, at least it was where I was raised (Toledo, OH.).

Then I came to a little Southern town where everyone acts like they know you, everyone speaks to you & everyone waves at you while driving down the road. Everyone told me when I first got here "you're so rude!" I was like WTH?? I don't know these people. Why would I speak to them?

And I have been here 12 years & I STILL haven't mastered the art of waving back to someone w/o driving my truck into a ditch! It must be something they teach these Southerners as part of their driving school. lol.

oh well, brush it off. It was nothing personal. In fact, as a Northern city woman myself, you probably scared the he.. out of her talking to her like you did. (Not that it was your fault, just saying.)

[Dyslermergerb]

Well it's not like it was an isolated spot or I was threatening. You could see thru the brush to the nearest trail ( which she could of used) and just a few yards away the brush ended and there is an area with benches and people within shouting distance. She had 2 shorthair pointers(?) with her that paid no attention to us either. She was just rude. Even a nod of the head would have been enough for me.

[DoctorGordanBens]

I hope you know that doesn't matter one whit. In my city I was surrounded by houses & people & you still didn't talk to strangers, let alone strange men. Heck, I had a friend of mine assulted by her old boyfriend while we were right in front of my own house & no one heard us holler for help. So what was or was not near by isn't an issue in the least.

Or have you considered she was hearing impaired (not stone deaf, but impaired)? I am hearing impaired myself. I lost a portion of my hearing as a result of being around aircraft in the service. I do not look like I have a hearing impairment, but I do. I have had people accuse me of being "rude" when I did not respond to them when the fact was, I didn't even know they were speaking to me.

Look, I understand you need to vent but you're making much to-do about nothing. She may have been scared to speak to you. She may have an impairment you didn't know of. Or she may have just been plain out rude. I guess what I'm saying is you don't know the whole story behind this woman & when push comes to shove it really doesn't matter. It's not like you're going to have to go to work with her every day. (I hope not!)

And at least you tried to be pleasant & in the end that's all that matters.

[Dyslermergerb]

OK. Maybe I shouldn't say hi to anyone unless I get eye contact 1st. I'm not working now and I don't get to talk to people much except when i'm out walking the dog. Most people will chit-chat a moment, so when i'm totally ignored it bothers me.

[FUNALA]

OK. Maybe I shouldn't say hi to anyone unless I get eye contact 1st. I'm not working now and I don't get to talk to people much except when i'm out walking the dog. Most people will chit-chat a moment, so when i'm totally ignored it bothers me.

What I usually do is just smile and nod. If they respond, fine, if not, I just keep on going.

I'll chat with ya!!....PM me your ##

[DoctorGordanBens]

Yeah, I'm just the opposite. I'm not working either so when I get a chance to talk to someone I will try, but if they ignore me, I'm cool with it b/c as I noted before, I don't know what all is going on with them. I know rudeness can be a reason, but it is not always the case. There may be an underlying cause why they're not responding to me, so if they don't, I just let it go. But if it helps, my Mom has told me when someone gets under your skin, sometimes all you can do is say to yourself "God bless that %^$#@*" & go about your business, knowing you were the better person for at least trying to be pleasant.

[Dyslermergerb]

Usually I say to my dog ''some people are so unsociable! Why can't people be more like dogs?''

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What I usually do is just smile and nod. If they respond, fine, if not, I just keep on going.

I'll chat with ya!!....PM me your ##

Thanks but i'm not much of a phone talker, just a little chit-chat about the dogs and such when I meet someone new.

[sEe]

Maybe she's hard of hearing? I'm bloody deaf from one to many Motorhead concerts and alot of times Daemon will go ''Hey mum. That person's talking to you.'' I didn't hear a freakin' thing. I'm sure there are times where I look like a total snob and I usually will talk to anyone whose got somethin' to say!

[DoctorBeny]

[DoctorGordanBens]

Maybe she's hard of hearing? I'm bloody deaf from one to many Motorhead concerts and alot of times Daemon will go ''Hey mum. That person's talking to you.'' I didn't hear a freakin' thing. I'm sure there are times where I look like a total snob and I usually will talk to anyone whose got somethin' to say!

lol, my husband & I are both the same way. We both have lost some of our hearing. Concerts will do a number won't they? The first time I ever suffered hearing loss was when I was a teenager after a Motley Crue concert. I can only imagine what Motorhead would do to one's hearing! lol. Luckily for me, my hearing returned after the concert & all I was left with was some ringing in the ears. But being around the aircraft day in & day out really was what did us in.

Anyway, lot of times when someone says something to my husband, he will look at me so I can tell him what they said. As for myself I usually can hear fairly well if it's quiet, but if there's any background noise I will hear some noise but not actual words. I work at a auto repair shop (or did until I got laid off) so needless to say at times it can be quite noisy & I can't hear people when they speak to me.

Customers get majorly pee'd off when I ask them to repeat themselves, so I am trying to learn how to read lips. But even that has it's downfall as sometimes I have to explain to them I'm not being rude & staring at them, but rather I cannot hear them & I'm trying to read their lips!

[sEe]

I totally read lips! I tell people not to even bother talking to me if I don't have my contacts in because I can't hear them, and their like WHAT?! You hear with your eyes?

[MaickiP]

Rude people drive me nuts!! I can't stand when I'm nice to someone, say good morning, or hello, and they totally ignore me.