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But, getting back to the "heart" issues. If you are just spending within your means on visiting her, or having her visit you, and having good experiences, then you don't really have a lot to lose. If it works out it will be great. If it doesn't you still gained a lot, right?

Absolutely right! I travelled backwards and forwards last year having a great time and getting to know a wonderful woman. Now it's a case of her getting acclimatized to the US and then all being well, marrying at the end of March