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What you run into with feelings is not the emotion itself but the clinging that causes suffering. The foundation of The Buddha's teaching, actually the only thing He taught was the Four Noble Truths. Everything else He taught was Skillful Means to communicate these truths.

One of the things The Buddha taught was the concept of annata, i.e. no-self. This is a difficult concept because it is counter intuitive to how we see the world and ourselves. Studying this will help you see that the reason we suffer because of these emotions is due to clinging to them. Our natural instinct is to run from pain that we do not understand or cannot overcome (fight or flight response). The "I" that we create keeps us separated from everything and everyone. "I" or "self" does not exist it is simply made up of the 5 aggregates of clinging which do not stand and cannot stand on their own. If we are made up of that which is transitory, how can we be anything but transitory?

I said all that to say this, I want to run from this pain but when I face it head on and truly experience it and then question the assumptions I have made that give it its power, it dissipates. This is a subtle thing. When we try to control our emotions or even our environment this actually strengthens the "self". The self is all about control. Let go of control. The more we try to control, the more our "self" controls us.

Great book by Rodney Smith.
"Stepping Out of Self-deception"
The Buddha's liberating teaching of no-self