[shemadagaswer]

With time and practise one learns that resentment is the product of stewing over something and failing to let go of it. One has to work to dredge up a resentment, and to feed and nourish it.

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Thanks for the sound perspective on this. I gave her my skymiles and I've never seen her happier

I read some essays by Gil Fronsdal in "the issue at hand" about generosity, about cultivating these actions and the impact that giving with right intention has on us. So, a happy ending for all and thanks!

I'm grateful to have such a good friend, grateful that my folks taught me to manage my money wisely so that I have always been able to save for these trips, grateful for the opportunity to give something that actually meant alot to someone.

And my cousin in Peru is a dentist and has offered her some far better prices on those fillings