[gregmcal]

Hey there,
I am in an relationship with a very eager practitioner of Buddhism. Now my question ! Should my partner also listen to the statements of her master in regards of our relationship, as he says that we are not good for each other and that she will suffer a bad disease in the next couple of years in case we stay together.

First things first. Who has decided this teacher is a "master"? And how did they reach this conclusion?

If lots of smart, happy people know this teacher well, trust and respect him, there's probably a good reason. On the other hand, if the master has pronounced himself a master, that's a possible problem. If he's remote, mysterious, controlling, extremist, or has a small following of apparently misguided people, that's another possible problem.

Cultural differences can make a difference. A really wise Tibetan master, for example, might admit he does not understand Western ways and might wisely withhold advice on certain topics. Some other well-qualified teachers from non-Western cultures might give seriously bad advice, arising from cultural misunderstandings.

Also, keep in mind, your partner might have confided in her teacher, might have expressed serious doubts about her future happiness with you. Perhaps the "master" has really only been a good listener. In that case, the master is not the source of the problem. Maybe you need to listen more carefully to her concerns.

I'm only guessing here. It's easy to guess wrong.

Hope this helps.


Bopshi