[iDzcs7TU]

Hi, Im struggling everyday from the break up between my husband and I. I found out he was "spending time" with another girl instead of going to work
Before he was busted there was never any talk of divorce. I moved back to Australia from the USA to be with my family as he told me it was over between us

6 months have passed, we have spoken on and off. Im still deeply in love with him (I know crazy) but i honestly believe that we can resolve this and our 8 year marriage deserves more effort.

He is still with this other girl (8 years younger, he's 30)

Today he messaged me asking ME to file for divorce papers as it was too expensive for him. Having to hire someone to actually serve me here from overseas.

I know he would send me money to file them, but honestly....is it appropriate to call your wife and ask HER to file the paperwork? (even when you know she doesnt want to) To me it feels like he made his bed, now he has to lie in it. I spent enough money having to move back to Australia after such short notice. I feel like this is his problem to deal with

And to be honest I am not in the state of mind to even start dealing with divorce papers. Infact they cant be filed until after a year of separation here.

I will also admit, secretly, part of me wants to make him sweat it out as i know his new little homewrecker GF is in his ear and nagging him to get the paperwork done

Am I being unreasonable and "difficult" ?????

[Goksiodiffeli]

Hell no you're not being unreasonable. He wanted to screw around then he gets to pay the price. The days of him saying jump and you asking how high should be over.

[zooworms]

You are not only not being unreasonable, but I would be a little tweeked with you if you file to help him. EVERYTHING should be in YOUR time frame. WHENEVER you feel the need to move in either direction....that's what you do. He already made all decisions in his time frame....let him marinate in his own crap. If you can't handle the sh!t in your pants, don't crap there.

[iDzcs7TU]

I can't tell you how much this chat room has helped me.
Most of the time i second guess myself and think I'm going nuts.

I agree with you, I need to grow a back bone or obtain a set of balls and stand up for myself.

Monster you are exactly right when you say the days of asking "how high" are over. The trouble is training yourself to act in a way that you have not done in over 10 years. I did everything for that man.

Breemood, You are right too, MY time frame now. I am soft and have always compromised to make my man happy, so i was scared id let him talk me into it and me always wanting to please would do it.

ps..love the "If you can't handle the sh!t in your pants, don't crap there" lol

xo

[iDzcs7TU]

on second thought, maybe i should get the little Wh*re home wrecker to pay for it. Payback for her posting pics of my husband all over facebook they day i left and gotta love the little quote she made the day my life got ripped apart "yay, we'll be together" arrrrrgggggghhhhhh !!!!!

[Goksiodiffeli]

That sounds good. Tell her if u want him...pay for the divorce. Classic.

[zooworms]

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