[SzefciuCba]

Man guys...

I always bottle stuff up, problems with family etc to be strong for those around me but this time I just need to get this out I think

had a pretty uneventful summer really, just the usual up until last sat
Completely out of the blue on a pals bday night out I 'hooked up' with this girl, completely by surprised 'cause she's unbelievably stunning and I'm well......not

So I was taken aback, things seemed to be going well, positive texts etc, met up with her twice I think during the week, I said to myself slow down but I like her alot so we made plans to go out yest (Sunday)

Again things seemed fine, talking away etc, bought her a few drinks, but then something seems to have changed, she went really 'tired', now I don't doubt she was tired, but I also felt she wasn't being completely honest, was maybe fed up, I asked her and she said no just tired, so I thought this isn't good and said lets just head home. Taxi home seemed weird too, we were close but not the same.

So basicly long story short, I really like this girl, I mean REALLY, she seemed to really like me at the start, don't know what's changed in a week but I'm not feeling good anymore.

Last night when I got home I stood outside my house for ages just staring up, completely numb, I honestly felt quite close to a breakdown, never felt like it in my life. I've dealt with alot in my life so far, DONT GET ME WRONG, I'm VERY LUCKY and very grateful for everything I have, family can be a bit screwed up and some stuff has happened but I know I'm nowhere near what some folk would say is bad, but just saying I've been through alot, will go through alot in future no doubt but this has really knocked me back.

I was lying in bed last night thinking...why go back to uni? what's the point. Struggled to even eat today really. Luckily I've been having to work so that;s taking my mind off it and my best mate has been there to listen to my ranting, but just need to get this off my chest.

Probably makes no sense this post, probably missed alot of key info out but you get the idea

Sorry for rant, I just feel like **** right now

[movlabs]

So let her cool off for a bit. Take some time to gather your wits -- get your favorite food and favorite beer -- and remember that you're going to school for yourself and not anyone else. Life is just a ride; don't take it so seriously.

edit: why did I quote your whole post

[mikeydesignzinc]

do a barrel roll

[SzefciuCba]

do a barrel roll

hah

I know the first reaction to these posts is to take the p**s, but just feel like I need to let it out to someone

Like I said I always bottle stuff up, just the way I am but nothing has made me feel like this, honestly so bad I thought just knocking myself out would be more peaceful.

I know life is too short for this crap, I NEED to suck it up, it's just bloody hard

[FloareTraurne]

So, you've only been with her for about a week or so, right? If so, just cool your jets a little, maybe she thinks you're moving a bit fast? Relax. As far as Uni goes, it's ultimately your choice. If you want to be "slave labor" all of your life it up to you unless you have a good job now.


BTW: Everyone needs to vent once in a while.[thumbup]

[tinamasak]

Girls don't like over-emotional guys who latch onto them at a moments notice.

If you would have ignored her a little more and provided more of a challenge, she might have stuck around.

[Goalseexere]

A week? Jesus man, you need to learn to calm down. What's going to happen when your first actual relationship fails?

[AntonioMQ]

Girls don't like honest guys who are sincerely interested in them yet reserved at the same time.

If you would have been a faker and insincerely ignored her and provided a false disinterest, she might have not have lost interest in you entirely.

Fixed.

[zenihan]

Well maybe she WAS just tired... When girls get tired they just completely switch off and become unresponsive, which might be interpreted as something more, but most of the time it's not.

You have to learn to ignore and get over little things like this... don't start over-analysing every little detail/sign you see. You'll just get paranoid and destroy the relationship.

[Dvjkefdw]

Well maybe she WAS just tired... When girls get tired they just completely switch off and become unresponsive, which might be interpreted as something more, but most of the time it's not.

You have to learn to ignore and get over little things like this... don't start over-analysing every little detail/sign you see. You'll just get paranoid and destroy the relationship.

have to agree, just relax and take things as they come. spending too much time worrying about it is gonna mess with your haed and not help, trust me i have been there

best way is to just move on if things are truely going nowhere, but if not then they will work themselves out

[steevytraunse]

You're still quite young. Life carries on in pretty much the same vein so this problem will soon be forgotten like a drop in the ocean of other similarly petty knocks that life dishes out. Also the odd genuine family tragedy tends to overshadow these things and you stop even noticing them.

Chin up.

[Nigeopire]

Damn wrong thread! Sorry

[cookiemonster]

Its crap isnt it but you probably are making more of it then you should be....

I wouldnt worry about it and just see what she says tomorrow or whatever.

[Justlovemy]

Awesome, i am so glad you posted this on a internet forum ,
now we can all learn something how we should deal with life [rolleyes]


NOT !!!!!!!!!!

[cookiemonster]

Stick it out. Your mate is probably just pissed he got suckered and is taking it out on you. He will come around once his head is clear and see what a good friend you are.

As for the chicks, gotta leave them man. Too much trouble! You'll find some other bird who isn't psycho (good luck! [rofl] ).

Im confused... which one of us is in the wrong thread

[Nigeopire]

Im confused... which one of us is in the wrong thread

Me Damn it!

[SzefciuCba]

Aye as I thought, it's went tits up, complete misunderstanding on both sides it seems ( I've heard things through a mutual friend sortof)

Ach well, the question is, do I attempt to talk to her and explain the situation to clear things up so there is still like talking etc and no weirdness, or do I just leave it?