[Japakefrope]

My Fiancé comes drive the cart about once or twice every couple of weeks for me and we have a great time. I usually try and make it for when not many folks are on the course so we can take our time. We usually stop (as long as no ones behind us at all, late after work is best time for this) every few holes and chip and putt together and have a wonderful time. I see a lot of you guys out there play with your wives and I think that's awesome. How did you get them into and what's best way about doing this? Thanks guys!

[desmond001]

My wife wanted to play because when she moved here, she wanted to do something sporty (she played soccer in California before she came here). So we got on a softball team. But being the oldest on the team. we didn't want tohit the bars after games and didn't jell with the kids! She knew I liked golf and said she wanted to try that. This was in 2009 and we haven't looked back.

Word of caution: Have her take lessons. DO NOT TRY TO TEACH HER YOURSELF!

[YTmWSOA5]

I got my wife in to it like you were say earlier we use to go out and play in the evening. Also what helped is my golf buddies wife played so she was more in to it then.

[Japakefrope]

My wife wanted to play because when she moved here, she wanted to do something sporty (she played soccer in California before she came here). So we got on a softball team. But being the oldest on the team. we didn't want tohit the bars after games and didn't jell with the kids! She knew I liked golf and said she wanted to try that. This was in 2009 and we haven't looked back.

Word of caution: Have her take lessons. DO NOT TRY TO TEACH HER YOURSELF!

I was thinking of having her dad give her lessons he's a 4 so he's way better then me plus I would have that headache haha lol

[Arkadiyas]

Sounds like you are doing fine. Her enjoyment may not be the same as yours. Possible should could care less about making pars and bogeys. Over time she may get more involved...don't push...just my 2 cents.

[TubOppomo]

It took a while for me to get into it, but Thainer loves golf and I wanted something fun we could do together plus he often told me he wanted me to come out and try. I didn't think I'd actually enjoy it enough to go on my own but that has changed! . It's alot easier to enjoy the game and want to play more when the other is really patient and encouraging. At first I hated going out when it was busy, I always felt rushed and that I wasnt good enough to keep up. I was afraid of slowing play, so going later in the day at first made me feel way more comfortable. Not making it competitive and not having to keep score was also a huge help. Tips are good but avoid criticizing, and don't get frustrated!! It makes us frustrated and just want to give up!
Good luck!

[UvgpXK0J]

Okay I'll be the one to say it. Doesn't anyone think that by getting your wife into golf you might be playing with fire a little bit? I mean it sounds great on paper (I've even made a few half hearted attempts myself) but it seems like you could be really giving up a great opportunity for some alone time, or time with friends. I love my wife and love spending time with her, but I've always thought of golf as the one thing I do that's completely seperate from her. It's like George Castanza says, "It's worlds colliding." Once you give her the key to your sanctuary you can't ask for it back. Not saying playing with your wife is bad, just saying be careful what you wish for.

[pKgGpUlF]

Okay I'll be the one to say it. Doesn't anyone think that by getting your wife into golf you might be playing with fire a little bit? I mean it sounds great on paper (I've even made a few half hearted attempts myself) but it seems like you could be really giving up a great opportunity for some alone time, or time with friends. I love my wife and love spending time with her, but I've always thought of golf as the one thing I do that's completely seperate from her. It's like George Castanza says, "It's worlds colliding." Once you give her the key to your sanctuary you can't ask for it back. Not saying playing with your wife is bad, just saying be careful what you wish for.

I would have to say the only downside I have found is when she starts whupping your arse on a regular basis, it get's a bit embarrassing

[xochgtlm]

Okay I'll be the one to say it. Doesn't anyone think that by getting your wife into golf you might be playing with fire a little bit? I mean it sounds great on paper (I've even made a few half hearted attempts myself) but it seems like you could be really giving up a great opportunity for some alone time, or time with friends. I love my wife and love spending time with her, but I've always thought of golf as the one thing I do that's completely seperate from her. It's like George Castanza says, "It's worlds colliding." Once you give her the key to your sanctuary you can't ask for it back. Not saying playing with your wife is bad, just saying be careful what you wish for.

I laughed at this because it's the way a lot of guys really do think. Lucky for me, my husband loves that I play. Lucky for him that I don't play with him as often as you might think. I actually prefer playing in blind draw scrambles, running off to different courses with the gals, and playing with him when we go on golf trips. Sometimes we will just spontaneously jump in the car and go play a quick nine in the evenings. Our vacations almost always include golf. It doesn't mean your time will be stolen. It just means you can play more golf and your wife will be more understanding of your love of the game. That's the case at our house anyway. He still has a lot of guy time on the course without me.

[Hlennisal]

Patience is key, golf takes a LONG time to get good at, make sure she knows that going in. In the last 3 months I've finally gotten my wife to start going to the driving ranged every so often and she's found hitting a driver to be a good stress reliever lol. Their reasons for playing are going to be most likely different from yours so never push and never set expectations. Just enjoy the fact that shes trying to learn a game you love and be sure to tell her that every chance you get!!!

[milfovoxapl]

Just got my wife into the game as well. Well back into it I guess since she played some when she was little. Her dad, and two brothers play a fair amount and live on a course so golf has always been very prevalent in her family. We talked for a while about getting her a set of clubs and getting started, but it never happened. Then about two weeks ago she won a golf bag in a raffle at a bar, and shortly after that she expressed serious interest(she said "I mean I already have the bag" lol). Her brother remembered he still had his old set of clubs in her parents garage that she could use. They were his HS clubs(orig TM burners) so he had them cut down a bit, which was perfect. We pieced together the rest of her set from the other clubs(a few old Callaway BB's/Steelheads) there. I took her out on the course for her first 18 at a pretty easy, and wide open course. She shot 111, not a bad start for someone just seriously picking up the game. She drained about 4 putts of 15' or more, which was a back breaker for me b/c I couldn't even make anything inside 5' haha.

My only advice is to stress patience. Being around it alot more than most, my wife already knew the basics of the swing. It just took some tinkering to get her hitting the ball decent and we were on the way. We had messed around playing on the little par 3 her dad lives on and I'd seen her get frustrated quickly there, so I did everything I could to stress having patience and not get frustrated b/c it was her first time out. Her biggest issue was from about 50yds in and chipping. At first it was hard for me to teach her the kinds of shots to hit, b/c from those distances it's alot of feel, but I think she started to understand what I was saying after a few holes, and started to understand those feel shots alot better. Patience is definitely the key though, and something you can't stress to your fiance enough.

[desmond001]

I was thinking of having her dad give her lessons he's a 4 so he's way better then me plus I would have that headache haha lol

That would be better than you doing it regardless of either of your skill level. But an instructor would still probably be best.

[Seerseraxlils]

Definitely don't push her too hard. I'm sure that after a while she will improve greatly and will hugely enjoy it.

[Hlennisal]

That would be better than you doing it regardless of either of your skill level. But an instructor would still probably be best.

Probably True, but I know the 1st thing she thought when I mentioned that was. "What? so I can pay to have some stranger tell me how bad I suck? No thanks. I want you to teach me." Now if she decides she truly wants to play and get better at the game; for sure do some lessons. Right now, having never picked up a club in her life, my wife wants that comfort blanket where she can learn to hit a ball and not have an pressure on it. Now that may be easier for her to say then others since I come from a family of golfers, Granddad was a 50 year member of the PGA, Dad and uncle both played collegiate golf with my uncle being an assistant pro for a time; so she may think I can at least teach her to hit the ball 9/10 times and go from there.

It's that fragile state where if you push to hard, make them show up at certain times, schedule lessons, etc, that at the 1st hint of it being a chore instead of fun, poof.....that ship just set sail. Now every wife is going to think differently on the situation, so out of all this I'd say this is the most Critical part, Make she its HER idea. What her to go to the range? Make sure it sounds good to her. What to play 9? Make sure shes up for it. Lessons? golfing Road Trip? You can advise as much as can, just make sure she is going to have fun.

My 2 cents from my experience over the last 2 months at least.

[55Beaphable]

I hate to say this but my wife has thought about it a few times. I told her I would never teach her because if might led to frustration from both of us. I like that as of now golf is my getaway, my time.


Tapatalk... Loved by me hated by the wife.

[desmond001]

Probably True, but I know the 1st thing she thought when I mentioned that was. "What? so I can pay to have some stranger tell me how bad I suck? No thanks. I want you to teach me." Now if she decides she truly wants to play and get better at the game; for sure do some lessons.

Don't agree, sorry. Hope whoever is teaching her doesn't have any bad habits, because she will get them too. The stranger won't tell her how bad she sucks. They will get her hitting the ball "decent" her first lesson. There is no way I would ever have even considered teaching my wife how to play because I know I couldn't do it correctly. And I wanted to stay married! hahaha.

[55Beaphable]

Don't agree, sorry. Hope whoever is teaching her doesn't have any bad habits, because she will get them too. The stranger won't tell her how bad she sucks. They will get her hitting the ball "decent" her first lesson. There is no way I would ever have even considered teaching my wife how to play because I know I couldn't do it correctly. And I wanted to stay married! hahaha.

I agree with having at PRO teach her how to hit the ball and agree even more to have someone else teach her if you want to stay married or even get married 


Tapatalk... Loved by me hated by the wife.

[soryalomop]

i just got my gf into the game a few months ago and needless to say, she's hooked! Here are some of the things i've done to help introduce the game to her.

1. taught her the basics on the range and chipping green.
2. once she felt comfortable with the mechanics, we'd get on the course after work for a quick 9 holes. Nobody's really playing around 6:30pm so there's no pressure from behind.
3. let her do her thing on the course. don't nag her when she has a bad shot. always encourage her.
4. i help her read putts...sinking in a putt (even for a d. bogey) is a great confidence booster.
5. you pretty much have to give up your game. make sure you pay attention to her and her game so that she doesnt feel alone on the course.

hope this helps.

[desmond001]

If you have a Par 3 or Executive course, play there before taking her to a "real" course. We played 5 or 6 times on our Executive course before Jacqui told me she was ready to go to a regular course.

[Beauseaccerce]

I tried this shortly after we got married. Went to the range a few times...then headed out to an "excutive" type course. Well...she didn't make it a whole 9 holes and at one point I wound up actually ducking a few clubs (litterally). It wasn't pretty.
That was about 4 years ago, she hasn't gone since. BUT she has said she's willing to try it again. I should probably get my cousin (now a teaching pro) to get her a head start this time.