[yK2VgoEI]

Assalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh,

I am new here, and I am happy to have found this forum, but I am also unhappy bcuz of my depression:

I've been obssessed with waswasah for almost three montsh wich made my life a trash, hamdulilah now I've learned to ignore them but I haven't learnt yet how to deal with my depression: I can't stop feeling guilty and I am afraid I will burn in hell forever, I just can't stop thinking about it, I try to remember to myself that I must be strong and faithfull in Allah's mercy but my depression is stronger then me, I feel like I can't live anymore but I neither wanna die bcuz I am afraid of hell.. I am taking drugs and I wonder if it is halal in Islam?

however I must change my medication as they don't make me feel better!
I even wanted to take a cognitive therapy by a psycologist but here where I live I can't find a Muslim one!

What do you advise me to do?
I know there are many like me, and that you may be tired to respond always to the same question, but I feel so lonely as I don't have nobody who I can talk to..

Please, please, make du'a for me because I feel like my heart is overwhelmed by guilty and pain and I don't know what to do in order to feel better!

Please ask Allah to love me, I feel like I am a bad person and like I don't deserve his love, this hurts me so much.. I don't know how to change my feeling and how to control them, I've tried many times in many ways but at the ent I am always the same!

may Allah reward you for your patience and dua's. Jazak Allahu khair!

[Suvaxal]

Assalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh,

I am new here, and I am happy to have found this forum, but I am also unhappy bcuz of my depression:

I've been obssessed with waswasah for almost three montsh wich made my life a trash, hamdulilah now I've learned to ignore them but I haven't learnt yet how to deal with my depression: I can't stop feeling guilty and I am afraid I will burn in hell forever, I just can't stop thinking about it, I try to remember to myself that I must be strong and faithfull in Allah's mercy but my depression is stronger then me, I feel like I can't live anymore but I neither wanna die bcuz I am afraid of hell.. I taking drugs and I wonder if it is halal in Islam?

however I must change my medication as they don't make me feel better!
I even wanted to take a cognitive therapy by a psycologist but here where I live I can't find a Muslim one!

What do you advise me to do?
I now there are many like me, and that you may be tired to respond always to the same question, but I feel so lonely as I don't have nobody who I can talk to..

Please, please, make du'a for me because I feel like my heart is overwhelmed by guilty and pain and I don't know what to do in order to feel better!

Please ask Allah to love me, I feel like I am a bad person and like I don't deserve his love, this hurts me so much.. I don't know how to change my feeling and how to control them, I've tried many times in many ways but at the ent I am always the same!

may Allah reward you for your patience and dua's. Jazak Allahu khair!

The Prophet said, ‘All the sons of Adam are sinners and the best among the sinners are those who repent.’ (Ahmad and others)

The first thing you need to realise is what we all make mistakes of one nature or another because we are humans so you have also made some mistakes.

All praise be to our Allah (SWT) who is Merciful and forgives those who ask for forgiveness so you need to turn to Allah (SWT) in sincere repentance and ask for forgiveness and ask Allah (SWT) to grant you the strength to overcome your weaknesses. It doesn’t matter what people think and it matters what Allah (SWT) thinks and you need to TURN to him with sincerity.

1. You need to really BEG & CRY to Allah (SWT).
2. You don’t need to do so in Arabic
3. You don’t need to do so in front of people
4. You don’t need any specific time

Then you need to start on a recovery plan and the first thing which you need to do is start offering your 5 times prayers DAILY & REGULARLY. If you happen to miss one or two (for some reason) MAKE THEM UP as soon as you can.

Then your recovery needs to rely on occupying your time in a constructive manner and avoid being by yourself and lonely. Its best to pick friendship with a good Muslim Sister so you can email, phone her and if you don’t have anyone then start a thread here and tell us about your progress. Tell us what you are doing, how you are doing etc. You need to MAKE SURE that you are not alone at ANYTIME!

In the meantime you need to seek medical help as we don’t know your specific condition and you need to KICK the habit and may need medical help in this regards.

[Elitiachirl]

I am not experienced buzurg or something. So I am not here to write what I think e.t.c

but I will give you a gift. Which is the bayan of moulana yunus patel (ra), someone wrote it down : http://yunuspatel.co.za/downloads/Tafweez.pdf

Hadhrat colonel's advice are very authentic and great. Mashallah, it would be best also to follow what he writes.

[yK2VgoEI]

Jazak Allahu Khair,
I pray, and I make du'a and I cry night and day..
I don't know any muslim who can help me! that's why I feel hopeless but anyway I still hope Allah will change my conditions sooner or later!

you can not immagine how much it hurts, I felt so close to Allah before, I never had many friends and I didn't need friends I always had ALlah by side, but now I am overwhelmed by fear and I think because of the fear and because of the depression I can't feel close to him anymore, and that makes me even more depressed!

[yK2VgoEI]

I am not experienced buzurg or something. So I am not here to write what I think e.t.c

but I will give you a gift. Which is the bayan of moulana yunus patel (ra), someone wrote it down : http://yunuspatel.co.za/downloads/Tafweez.pdf

Hadhrat colonel's advice are very authentic and great. Mashallah, it would be best also to follow what he writes.

thank you very much! Jazak Allahu Khair!

[Suvaxal]

Jazak Allahu Khair,
I pray, and I make du'a and I cry night and day..
I don't know ancy muslim who can help me! that's why I feel hopeless but anyway I still hope Allah will change my conditions sooner or later!

you can not immagine how much it hurts, I felt so close to Allah before, I never had many friends and I didn't need friends I always had ALlah by side, but now I am overwhelmed by fear and I think because of the fear and because of the depression I can't feel close to him anymore, and that makes me even more depressed!

I understand trust me, I do, personally and professionally.

What you need to do is FOCUS on trying to get out of the situation while Shaytaan is going to keep bringing the situation to your attention.

Don’t try to fight the Waswasis of Shaytaan because he will just keep attacking one way or another, instead FOCUS on something else.

You need to have a PLAN, now tell me what is your PLAN on achieving something positive? You need to do something e.g. learn some new skills, join a Gym do something positive which you can achieve.

Your plan needs to have three simple aspects:

1. You need to like (whatever you want to do)
2. You need to have a realistic target (don’t try to overachieve)
3. You need to set a realistic time (set a timeframe).

So tell us what do you want to do? Ignore your depression and your Waswasa for the time being. Even something little because when you achieve it your confidence will go up and slowly but surely you will dig yourself out of the hole.

[DoctorNelsonOnten]

along with the aamaals as has been stated.alhamdulillah

a few nutritional additions as is also sunnah

omega 3/6/9/ oil or foods that contain them
molasses ....very high in minerals

i take both these in autumn/winter....
they have really helped my s.a.d.
practically non existent last two winters as my wife can attest

[Suvaxal]

To begin with, start walking 25 minutes a day at least 3 days a week and STICK to it! Rain, hail, sunshine...do it.

[yK2VgoEI]

I understand trust me, I do, personally and professionally.

What you need to do is FOCUS on trying to get out of the situation while Shaytaan is going to keep bringing the situation to your attention.

Don’t try to fight the Waswasis of Shaytaan because he will just keep attacking one way or another, instead FOCUS on something else.

You need to have a PLAN, now tell me what is your PLAN on achieving something positive? You need to do something e.g. learn some new skills, join a Gym do something positive which you can achieve.

Your plan needs to have three simple aspects:

1. You need to like (whatever you want to do)
2. You need to have a realistic target (don’t try to overachieve)
3. You need to set a realistic time (set a timeframe).

So tell us what do you want to do? Ignore your depression and your Waswasa for the time being. Even something little because when you achieve it your confidence will go up and slowly but surely you will dig yourself out of the hole.

Well since I started suffering from waswasah I decided to focus more on studying our deen, I've been reading a lot, and yes it helped me not to lose hope and faith, I started to run, but now is hot outside I can't run all covered! so now I spend my time reading and sleeping, praying and crying.

I suffered insomnia but now, I think it's becuz of the drugs, I can't stop sleeping and I feel so weak, even physically!
I used to study at university, I loved it but now I can't focus on my studing, but anyway I am trying to study a little bit just becuz I don't want to disappoint my parents and I lied to them, I told them now I feel better just bcuz I don't want to see them sad, but it's not true, I feel bad!

thank you for your support. Jazak Allahu Khair, barakallahu fik.

[somawaima]

Well since I started suffering from waswasah I decided to focus more on studying our deen, I've been reading a lot, and yes it helped me not to lose hope and faith, I started to run, but now is hot outside I can't run all covered! so now I spend my time reading and sleeping, praying and crying.

I suffered insomnia but now, I think it's becuz of the drugs, I can't stop sleeping and I feel so weak, even physically!
I used to study at university, I loved it but now I can't focus on my studing, but anyway I am trying to study a little bit just becuz I don't want to disappoint my parents and I lied to them, I told them now I feel better just bcuz I don't want to see them sad, but it's not true, I feel bad!

thank you for your support. Jazak Allahu Khair, barakallahu fik.

Ok.. now lets get practical.. I would suggest you to involve yourselves with some work.. If you don't know what exactly to do, then contact me I will give you some home based work.. Try to get some pets.. They will keep your mind occupied and happy. There is book called "Hayat us sahabah", try to get that book and read the stories of sahaba.. it gives lot of pleasure to know the help Allah has bestowed upon them..

There is nothing to feel guilty.. You should know your potential... You should have confidence in yourself. Allah is with every Muslim though you may be a sinner, but still we should have faith that Allah will save us as He promised.

[Ruiceara]

Bismihi Ta'ala

Wa-alaykumus Salaam waRahmatullahi waBarakaatuhu dear sister,

1.) Alhamdulillah, welcome to the Forum. We too are happy to have you on this forum. Hope you find it a wonderful learning experience.

2.) “Waswasah” is extremely common. Many threads on this forum indicate that so many more are plagued by the whisperings of shaytaan.

…As my respected Shaykh would say, ‘Whispering is Shaytaan’s work … this is what he is skilled in…. And he takes pleasure in causing distress to Believers…’
So don't allow him that pleasure. Ignore the whisperings.

Insha-Allah, you will find great benefit in the prescriptions given in the book : ‘Combating the whisperings of shaytaan’.

http://yunuspatel.co.za/books-whisperingsofshaitaan.php

3.) Imaan is between hope and fear. Insha-Allah, taking the steps in giving up drugs, will be a great means of establishing a healthy balance – physicaly, mentally and emotionally, and also be greatly beneficial in removing the depression.

4.) The book, “Kicking the Habit” has benefitted literally thousands, Alhamdulillah. There are excellent prescriptions and suggestions given to those who want to give up drug/smoking/gambling habits.

Insha-Allah, it will benefit you too. The link is:

http://yunuspatel.co.za/books-kickingthehabit.php

5.) If any of us can be even a little assistance to you in giving up the habit and making positive changes, then it is our pleasure and happiness. Alhamdulillah.

6.) Company that we keep is most impacting on our lives – so you have to be selective of your friends and company. Hold fast to the company of pious, righteous sisters who will influence you positively in leading a spiritually, wholesome life which is free of such actions which are displeasing to Allah Ta`ala.

7.) Allah Ta’ala is Most Forgiving. My Shaykh would say that Allah Ta’ala’s Ocean of Forgiveness is so wide and expansive. It is just for us to dive in…

Allah Ta’ala informs us :

“Say : ‘O My Slaves Who Have Transgressed Against Themselves
(By Committing Evil Deeds And Sins)! Do Not Despair Of The Mercy Of Allah, Verily Allah Forgives All Sins. Truly He Is Oft-Forgiving, Most MERCIFUL.”
[Surah Zumar 39 : 53]


8.) The fact that you are hurt and sad over your actions is a sign of Imaan. Alhamdulillah.

9.) May Allah Ta’ala keep you and all of us in His Special Protection, grant us the taufeeq of sincere repentance, inspire us on the Straight Path and grant us steadfastness with each step and breath we take.

10.) Also request your duas.

Was-Salaamu ‘alaykum
Your sister in Islam

You could also contact the Madrasah (contact details are on the website http://yunuspatel.co.za) and request a set of books to be posted for you. They do so, free of charge. The whole set will, Insha-Allah, be found helpful and encouraging : http://yunuspatel.co.za/books.php

[ireleda]

You have parents? You study? You have shelter? You have an option to consult a doctor? What about Fatima? Here
Here

Reflect.@not known, bhai, what does your signature even mean? are you all right?

[somawaima]

Reflect.@not known, bhai, what does your signature even mean? are you all right?

I am 100% alright

Just have set up some personal targets

[yK2VgoEI]

You have parents? You study? You have shelter? You have an option to consult a doctor? What about Fatima? Here
Here

Reflect.@not known, bhai, what does your signature even mean? are you all right?

Yes I always ponder upon the gifts that Allah gave me, and I am thankful to my Lord for all the beautiful things he gave me, you know what was the most precious gift I had from him? my faith! and if I am depressed now is becuz of that.. I am afraid and scared that I have displeased Allah, and I remember the first time I experieced waswasah I was so scared and anxious that nothing could keep me calm, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat I just couldn't live anymore bucuz I was stupid and I couldn't get rid of my stupid waswasah I just couldn't stop thinking about how bad person I am and about what a big sin I had done..

but anyway I feel much better then before, I only hope to cure my self from this stupid depression wich is killing me slowly! pls remember me in your duas! jazakallahu khair!

[yK2VgoEI]

Bismihi Ta'ala

Wa-alaykumus Salaam waRahmatullahi waBarakaatuhu dear sister,

1.) Alhamdulillah, welcome to the Forum. We too are happy to have you on this forum. Hope you find it a wonderful learning experience.

2.) “Waswasah” is extremely common. Many threads on this forum indicate that so many more are plagued by the whisperings of shaytaan.

…As my respected Shaykh would say, ‘Whispering is Shaytaan’s work … this is what he is skilled in…. And he takes pleasure in causing distress to Believers…’
So don't allow him that pleasure. Ignore the whisperings.

Insha-Allah, you will find great benefit in the prescriptions given in the book : ‘Combating the whisperings of shaytaan’.

http://yunuspatel.co.za/books-whisperingsofshaitaan.php

3.) Imaan is between hope and fear. Insha-Allah, taking the steps in giving up drugs, will be a great means of establishing a healthy balance – physicaly, mentally and emotionally, and also be greatly beneficial in removing the depression.

4.) The book, “Kicking the Habit” has benefitted literally thousands, Alhamdulillah. There are excellent prescriptions and suggestions given to those who want to give up drug/smoking/gambling habits.

Insha-Allah, it will benefit you too. The link is:

http://yunuspatel.co.za/books-kickingthehabit.php

5.) If any of us can be even a little assistance to you in giving up the habit and making positive changes, then it is our pleasure and happiness. Alhamdulillah.

6.) Company that we keep is most impacting on our lives – so you have to be selective of your friends and company. Hold fast to the company of pious, righteous sisters who will influence you positively in leading a spiritually, wholesome life which is free of such actions which are displeasing to Allah Ta`ala.

7.) Allah Ta’ala is Most Forgiving. My Shaykh would say that Allah Ta’ala’s Ocean of Forgiveness is so wide and expansive. It is just for us to dive in…

Allah Ta’ala informs us :

“Say : ‘O My Slaves Who Have Transgressed Against Themselves
(By Committing Evil Deeds And Sins)! Do Not Despair Of The Mercy Of Allah, Verily Allah Forgives All Sins. Truly He Is Oft-Forgiving, Most MERCIFUL.”
[Surah Zumar 39 : 53]


8.) The fact that you are hurt and sad over your actions is a sign of Imaan. Alhamdulillah.

9.) May Allah Ta’ala keep you and all of us in His Special Protection, grant us the taufeeq of sincere repentance, inspire us on the Straight Path and grant us steadfastness with each step and breath we take.

10.) Also request your duas.

Was-Salaamu ‘alaykum
Your sister in Islam

You could also contact the Madrasah (contact details are on the website http://yunuspatel.co.za) and request a set of books to be posted for you. They do so, free of charge. The whole set will, Insha-Allah, be found helpful and encouraging : http://yunuspatel.co.za/books.php

Thank you very much sister may Allah reward you for these beautiful words.
I wish I could find pious friends but I have none like this.. I have a few of friends but they are not muslims. but I am still lucky to have my computer and your advises hamdulilah.

[yK2VgoEI]

Ok.. now lets get practical.. I would suggest you to involve yourselves with some work.. If you don't know what exactly to do, then contact me I will give you some home based work.. Try to get some pets.. They will keep your mind occupied and happy. There is book called "Hayat us sahabah", try to get that book and read the stories of sahaba.. it gives lot of pleasure to know the help Allah has bestowed upon them..

There is nothing to feel guilty.. You should know your potential... You should have confidence in yourself. Allah is with every Muslim though you may be a sinner, but still we should have faith that Allah will save us as He promised.

Jazak Allahu khair bro, I don't know how to contanct you, pls feel free to give me any "home based work" lol, I appreciate all your advises

[ireleda]

I am 100% alright

Just have set up some personal targets

Alhamdulillah! Then no problem brother...

Yes I always ponder upon the gifts that Allah gave me, and I am thankful to my Lord for all the beautiful things he gave me, you know what was the most precious gift I had from him? my faith! and if I am depressed now is becuz of that.. I am afraid and scared that I have displeased Allah, and I remember the first time I experieced waswasah I was so scared and anxious that nothing could keep me calm, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat I just couldn't live anymore bucuz I was stupid and I couldn't get rid of my stupid waswasah I just couldn't stop thinking about how bad person I am and about what a big sin I had done..

but anyway I feel much better then before, I only hope to cure my self from this stupid depression wich is killing me slowly! pls remember me in your duas! jazakallahu khair!

@sis, please listen to this small talk it'll cheer you up:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KURL7sukq9U-courtesy faizanakram99

[somawaima]

Jazak Allahu khair bro, I don't know how to contanct you, pls feel free to give me any "home based work" lol, I appreciate all your advises

Just drop an email on link in my signature..

[Lvnufcdc]

Dear sister, I pray you are well InshAllah. Your depression is nothing but a test of your imaan and tawakkul in Allah...When you lose hope in Allah's mercy you MUST understand that your sins can never ever ever be greater than the Mercy of Allah!!

Think about the story of firawn...He was the greatest tyrant that has ever walked upon the face of this earth, He claimed godhood, committed shirk, killed innocent people, enslaved man and tortured others, honestly can you get worse than this? Yet when he was drowning in the sea Jibraeel alayhis salam threw mud in his mouth because He feared that firawn would seek forgiveness and Allahs mercy would overcome him... SubhanAllah, ponder over that. If Allah has the capacity to forgive someone like firawn then understand that He has so much more in store for you. Understand that when a person turns to Allah in humility Allah feels shy to turn him away empty handed, Allah feels shy to reject him.

"The Messenger of Allah said, "Allah laughs at the despair of His slaves, even though His help is so close!"

Abu Ruzain said, "Oh Messenger of Allah! Does our Lord laugh?"

He said, "Yes."

Abu Ruzain said, "In that case, we will never lose hope in seeking good from a Lord that laughs."

-Recorded by Ibn Maajah

[AmfitNom]

I too sometimes go through phases similar to the ones you describe, it usually lasts for a few days. It is difficult to pull myself out of it, almost as if someone else is in charge. But I do find that looking at the world in a negative light is a choice...we can CHOOSE to look at the world in a completely positive light. Life is a tremendous blessing, and death is also a blessing, so is illness and suffering (though we must seek the protection of Allah from it), in all conditions a Muslim is blessed, if they accept it without complaint.

We need to train our thoughts and mind, refuse to look at negative things, do not watch TV, avoid negative people and work on your self, be strong minded, speak to yourself, be a coach, tell yourself like a coach would, I will not allow you to look at the world negatively...we are not living in a meaningless universe, humans are the greatest of Allahs creation, our sins and our perception of them makes us grow closer to Allah swt, we do tawba to an All-Forgiving Lord, who loves people who repent. Never allow your thoughts to think bad thoughts about Allah, just refuse and affirm the good, Insha-Allah it will pass, and if it returns in the future you will be strong enough to fight it.

Assalamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh,

I am new here, and I am happy to have found this forum, but I am also unhappy bcuz of my depression:

I've been obssessed with waswasah for almost three montsh wich made my life a trash, hamdulilah now I've learned to ignore them but I haven't learnt yet how to deal with my depression: I can't stop feeling guilty and I am afraid I will burn in hell forever, I just can't stop thinking about it, I try to remember to myself that I must be strong and faithfull in Allah's mercy but my depression is stronger then me, I feel like I can't live anymore but I neither wanna die bcuz I am afraid of hell.. I am taking drugs and I wonder if it is halal in Islam?

however I must change my medication as they don't make me feel better!
I even wanted to take a cognitive therapy by a psycologist but here where I live I can't find a Muslim one!

What do you advise me to do?
I know there are many like me, and that you may be tired to respond always to the same question, but I feel so lonely as I don't have nobody who I can talk to..

Please, please, make du'a for me because I feel like my heart is overwhelmed by guilty and pain and I don't know what to do in order to feel better!

Please ask Allah to love me, I feel like I am a bad person and like I don't deserve his love, this hurts me so much.. I don't know how to change my feeling and how to control them, I've tried many times in many ways but at the ent I am always the same!

may Allah reward you for your patience and dua's. Jazak Allahu khair!