[ddwayspd]

Anyone loose friends because they have successfully or are successfully loosing weight on HCG? ....I realize that is a loaded question.

SIGH

I have several friends who have been good friends for several years. We all had dinner together tonight. It was different. All of us have been trying to diet and lose weight. We have all lost some, but I have lost 80 pounds. I had a lot to loose, what can I say.

Anywho, for the first time since completing my first round, I was going to tell them about HCG. But when I tried to open up about it, my other friend cut me off and started talking about her new prescription of 'ace' diet pills. What is that? I have never heard of it, but everyone else had. So, I tried one more time. Again, cut off and subject changed.

Now, I don't know if they feel that 'taking shots' is cheating or the easy way out. But, honestly, it hurt my feelings. So, now, I find them looking me up and down...... sizing me up.

I have always been the fat-friend. I never thought of these friends as shallow...until now.

I am sad. I am hormonal. I am more determined than before dinner to stay Perfectly on Protocol.....stubborn determination. And, when I see them in a couple months, I want to be successfully loosing weight or maintaining my losses. Perhaps that would be to their chagrin.

[soipguibbom]

This is my first post on the boards so.... number one CONGRATULATIONS! how awesome to have lost the weight. Don't give up and don't give in to feeling inferior in some way as to how you got it off. The key is to keep it off and if that means choosing one friend instead of a few friends so be it! Blessings and good luck to you!

[Maribellin]

That's quite unfortunate that your feeling that way and I'm sorry that you are. But you know what? You have to keep your head up and keep pushing forward. You're doing something so amazing that a lot of people don't do.

My social life when on hCG does not exist!. I don't go out or anything during p2. Only my close friends know and to be honest they're all very supportive even if they don't agree with the diet.
If they're not supportive of you and they want to bring you down, don't even think for a second that their opinion matters because in the end you've done nothing wrong. There are so many amazing people out there. You should be very proud of what you have accomplished so far, and what you will be accomplishing. Don't let anyone hold you down.

Libra

[HOTgirlsXXL]

That sucks, Katerina, but don't let it deter you. Down the road, when you keep it off while eating a ton and they don't, they may just come to you. So many new friends waiting who will be stunned by your success!

[embefuri]

They are jealous, plain and simple. Some people just don't want to hear what people have done to be successful. I always want to shout from the rooftops, but I know some people are not ready to listen. I deal with this with my brother.

As for the 'ace' diet pills, if they are what I've heard about, they aren't prescription. The term ACE comes from Appetite Control and Energy dietary supplement. They are - Vitamin B6
- Cocoa Powder
- Chromium
- Spirulina
- Green Tea Extract
- Geranium Flower
- Natural Sourced Caffeine

[Rqvtwlfk]

Were you still loading? Maybe they were kind of po'd. "How the hell can she lose 80 lbs and eat like that?" Haha

[TeemFilla]

I agree, People just dont know how to applaud other peoples successes especially when they are struggling themselves. My BFF and I started this round together she has lost alot more than me in just 4 days and I support her and congratulate her everyday for doing a great job. But shes my BFF and has been for 30 yrs its what friends do. Keep going strong. Who cares what others think. I used to tell people I was doing HCG but seriouisly some people just look down on you for it because they dont get it. My sons GFs mom is struggling too with weight and I asked her if she knew about HCG and she had, her friend did it and it was not something she was interested in. So I told her this week I started and she had absolutely nothing to say about it as if I didnt even say anything. That was just fine for me - if you cant support it then I appreciate your lack of words. Chin up keep going your doing a fab job

[Loonerisav]

Everyone you call your friend isn't necessarily so.

[mirex]

Sounds like somebody's are a wee bit jealous if you ask me.

And, because they are jealous of your success, where they have not been, they are dismissive of what you have to say about how you accomplished it, and instead are pumping themselves up, trying to sound as if they have the solution, therefore there's no merit or value in anything you might have to say on the subject.

This is unfortunate, but not entirely out of bounds for human behavior.

I suspect, that in addition to being shallow, they are narcissistic and therefore threatened by the mere thought that someone other than themselves may know something of value.

Hopefully, they will come to see the light, we all make mistakes, but if not, you might actually consider yourself lucky to have learned the true nature of your relationship with them, because based on what you've written, it appears as if they may not be worthy your friendship, but again 1 incident does not necessarily equal disassociating yourself from them, just be sure to keep an objective eye open to how they treat you, so you do not subject yourself to too much emotional abuse in the name of old "friendship".

[12Cickprior]

congrats on your fantastic loss! that is amazing.

yup, sounds like your friends are a bit jealous of your success. that's too bad. I suspect they will get used to the "new" you and your friendship will continue, but slightly different.

I lost 63 lbs two years ago and divorced at the same time and my pool of friends shifted, but in the end, my dearest friends stayed close and were able to handle the new version of me. But it is hard for my oldest friend in particular to see me, so much thinner, while she is still overweight, and see me dating and happy and wearing cute clothes. There is jealousy, but our friendship has been able to handle it. And now she's finally found a low-calorie diet and exercise plan that works for her so she's finding success, too.

Congrats, again, on your awesome loss!!!

[MgpojuWy]

Hi, congrats on your weight loss so far, you've done so well.

I agree with everyone else - it's just envy, or at least I would hope it was only that. If you say that you were the fat friend I'm assuming you were bigger than everyone else so it probably is a bit of a shock to them to see you now being one of the slimmer people of the group instead. It may be a temporary thing - hopefully they will get over their envy and perhaps ask you for some tips in the end instead of blocking their ears to your success.

I've got a friend who, early last year, did a diet called the Cohen diet (some may not have heard of it - I think Cohen is an Australian guy and it's more well-known there) - anyway she had great success and lost about 6 dress sizes and looked amazing and I have to admit I did feel a bit envious myself but it didn't stop me asking her all about it. It wasn't the right diet for me, it was too harsh, but it worked for her and she has kept the weight off, but I can understand (kind of!) how your friends must feel - she was probably about 20 lb bigger than me so it was a shock to see her looking so different and suddenly I was the fat friend instead - LOL. I think now, looking back, my envy was actually more to do with the fact that she seemed to have so much more willpower than me, not the fact that she was now smaller - I wished I could do the diet but I knew I would never stick to it.

Anyway I'm rambling - I hope things work out OK with you and your friends and I wish you well with your continued weight loss. I just had a look at your blog and saw the post about you not feeling as though you look that much different - I know a few people who've lost a lot of weight and feel a bit like that. You mention the image in your head - perhaps a lot of us do that. I know I'm always shocked at how big I look in photos so I think I'm a victim of it too - thinking for years that I look smaller than I really do. I hope one day that I have a photo taken where I actually look as slim as I think I do

[BitStillrhile]

I can so relate. It is hard, when you finally stumble across something that works and you want to share your excitement with the people you care about in your life. I have come to grips with the fact that there are certain relationships that only work if you are the underdog... as long as you are the fat one, the poor one, the disadvantaged, the one down on your luck. Its one of the ways really insecure people try to tip the scales in their favor and feel good about themselves. This works really well as long as you continue on as normal and don't upset the dynamic of the relationship. Once you remove that equalizer (the weight, the money, the job, the screwed up relationship etc...) they immediately become threatened by your success. I was reading a story about Billy Bob Thornton and why he felt his relationship with Angelina Jolie failed, he explained that it was because he was too insecure. http://todayentertainment.today.msnb...ina-jolie?lite

Likewise, your success is a challenge for your insecure friends to deal with. It's certainly not your problem, but it hurts never the less. So you'll have to let them deal with their demons and move on til you find Brad Pitt...

[RSAccountssy]

I agree they are totally jealous and obviously if they are talking of taking a pill to "magically" help them they wouldn't be interested. Don't take it personally. Be the best "YOU" that you can be and show them in a couple of months. I wouldn't bother to try and tell them again. Let them come and ask you! Also it's a good thing they are only every few month friends...

Good luck!

[appleiphoneees]

Thank you all for posting. I really appreciate each and every one of you and the support you send my way.

Ladyviolets – Welcome to the boards. Thank you for your kind words.

Libra – During my first round, I did not tell anyone what I was doing except my husband and my sister. They were super encouraging. After loosing so much weight, and after being cornered by a coworker, I did tell I was doing HCG. Honestly I don’t care about their opinion. I just felt ‘injured’ by my closest friends.

Beth – You are right. And thanks for the information about ACE. I had never heard of it. It irritates me because they were talking about how they just could not eat less than 1200 calories without feeling like crap. It blows my mind that they would rather exercise themselves to death while starving at the same time.

I do believe there is a lot of jealousy there. And, yes, I was the heaviest one in the group. Now, I blend in. They will have to get over their own issues. I am not going to apologize for the success I have had …even if I cheated with “shots”. HCG has been a miracle for me. A Miracle. I have a hard time believing that people want to cling to their ignorance instead of trying something different. But, oh well. I suppose I was there once too.

[vipdumpp]

Thankfully, I have not lost friends - and my dearest friends are great cheerleaders! Now, one of my friends doesn't ask diddly about my program but raves about WW.... have not seen her in awhile - we'll connect next weekend so it will be interesting to see if she says anything. My losses, like yours, are very noticeable now. If she doesn't say anything and starts talking about her WW, I may slap her (not really).

[wooclosmercob]

Wow - congratulations on your success! I am only new to this diet (2 weeks into R1 P4) and I really feel for you - when you find something that works you want to share it with people you care about! Sadly, some people think there is only so much success to go around, and that if you have some of it, there is less for them. Keep your head up, the support you get from the people who really care will more than make up for a spiteful few!

On a funny note, I caught up with a girlfriend this past weekend and she wanted to know everything about the diet - when I told her about P2 she went very quiet. Then she helpfully suggested I skip that phase next time but take twice as many drops If only it worked that way!

[freevideoandoicsI]

...If she doesn't say anything and starts talking about her WW, I may slap her (not really).

HAHAHA. I feel ya. I often think the same thing. It is interesting my good friends do not mention my weight loss success, but someone who has not seen me in 3-4 years nearly falls over themselves to comment on my new 'thinness'. I wish there was less jealously and more supportiveness. But, alas, girls are catty and fickle.

[Pwy9egVW]

Girls are catty?!?! Damn straight! We each want to be the queen bee of the group.

But back to the matter at hand. Next time you are with them, you tell your friends, "BadKitty says, 'Bite me!'" Silly witches.

One thought I did have about your last post is a bit in their defense, though; it is easier for people who haven't seen you in a while to notice a profound loss than it is for the people who see us every day to see it happen gradually. When my BF was losing weight last year slowly and I was seeing her every few days, I really didn't "see" it. Then we had a 4 week gap because of Thanksgiving/work/holiday stuff, and when I saw her the week before Christmas, I was like OMG you look amazing!! That sort of goes in reverse, too, when we start gaining weight; we don't notice it when our spouse puts on 10 pounds in a year because we see them everyday.

The ACE thing? I wondered if it was a change-up from ECA (ephedra/caffeine/aspirin stack). But like the ACE Kats was talking about, it isn't prescription. And bodybuilders (the people I have heard about who have the majority of success with that) definitely do lose fat when they use it for "cutting", but they also lift like crazy when they take it.

Anyway - your friends are idiots, and you are pretty, and you have done an amazing job, and their noses are out of joint that their pretty fat friend is now their pretty medium sized friend who is rapidly turning to slender. Just smile and pity them (and tell them what I said!).

[Seesspoxy]

Girls are catty?!?! Damn straight! We each want to be the queen bee of the group.

But back to the matter at hand. Next time you are with them, you tell your friends, "BadKitty says, 'Bite me!'" Silly witches.

One thought I did have about your last post is a bit in their defense, though; it is easier for people who haven't seen you in a while to notice a profound loss than it is for the people who see us every day to see it happen gradually. When my BF was losing weight last year slowly and I was seeing her every few days, I really didn't "see" it. Then we had a 4 week gap because of Thanksgiving/work/holiday stuff, and when I saw her the week before Christmas, I was like OMG you look amazing!! That sort of goes in reverse, too, when we start gaining weight; we don't notice it when our spouse puts on 10 pounds in a year because we see them everyday.

The ACE thing? I wondered if it was a change-up from ECA (ephedra/caffeine/aspirin stack). But like the ACE Kats was talking about, it isn't prescription. And bodybuilders (the people I have heard about who have the majority of success with that) definitely do lose fat when they use it for "cutting", but they also lift like crazy when they take it.

Anyway - your friends are idiots, and you are pretty, and you have done an amazing job, and their noses are out of joint that their pretty fat friend is now their pretty medium sized friend who is rapidly turning to slender. Just smile and pity them (and tell them what I said!).

Thanks! I will tell them!

When I first posted this, I was severely hormonal. I am much better yesterday and today. And, I am still mad and hurt. But, I am no longer having a pity party. I don't have the energy to concentrate on a pity party when I am trying to focus on Phase 2. And, I am looking forward to seeing them in another 4 months.......when I am 30+ pounds lighter. Just sayin'.

[untostaronaf]

Society has conditioned us, as women, to feel insecure about our weight, our bodies, etc., and as women we unwittingly sort of get assigned to roles in our friendships (much like that in a family dynamic). There's the hot one, the fat one, the funny one, the slutty one, the prude, the responsible one, the flake, etc. I've lost a lot of weight over the past two years and my doing so has significantly upset the delicate balance in my friendship relationships, as well as my family dynamic. We still haven't figured out where I fit into things yet and there are still awkward moments.

My guess is that your friends aren't intentionally trying to be mean. If anything, your weight loss is so LOUD in their own heads that they aren't even thinking about you at all - they are, instead, thinking of their own insecurities, failures, etc. Their interrupting you and being rude is probably on a subconscious level. If they have been good friends, it may just take some time for you all to sort out where you fit into the social order of your group. Because, believe me, it's not just your new body they are noticing. It's also your new confidence that is a natural byproduct of losing weight and feeling great about it. Give them some time to get used to the new you. If they are true friends, it will sort itself out.