[swissloveone]

Thank you PM I like to look at it as my lesson as well. I learned the importance of boundries. Drea I encourage you to stay strong and create a shield around yourself. Follow your path and allow yourself to grow into the wonderful person you are.

[Wymdqcvb]

Say there is a person who lives from fear and anxiety... This person attracts the misfortune to themselves. They won't change. It's like they are the victim and life is the enemy.


In my head/body, I hear/feel that they need to control the fear, learn some self-worth, be centered, live from a place of love and trust in yourself. I must tell the person, they won't listen, it's all the same, but it plays in my head what they must learn. I really try to relate it to them. Something is trying to be taught to a person who is -at this moment, unteachable.

Is this all that I can do? I cannot make changes for someone. I feel that I can do no more. I have to leave it up to the universe now. Is this OK? I don't wish to be cruel, but I do have limits.

[CULTDIAMONDS]

This person is playing out the only life-script they understand. They've had mostly negative experiences in life, and have come to expect only negative things. You're right, you cannot change this person. It's up to them, WHEN they are ready to see the world in a new light.

If you have delivered the message, you have done all that is asked of you. Perhaps the message will linger in their mind and someday take root. I'd suggest surrounding this person with love and positive energy. Then leave it be, and go on your way with a clear conscience.

[6Rexw51X]

It's all you can do. You know that saying "you can lead a horse to water....But you can't make them drink". It's true.

Sometimes you have to break it off and let go. It's hard but it's all part of what we do as "light bringers". Some just don't WANT to see the light, let alone work at going towards a better life.

People like my mother LIKE drama, negativity and chaos. It's familiar and comfortable. They'd rather stay in that state then work for the change.

Sorry, time to let go.

[estuapped]

Drea this is okay all you can do is teach and show love. In life our lessons are our own. They can be pointed out but it is our freewill to accept and learn from them. Just last year I had a friend I was trying to help and negative things continued to happen to her. Out of this world things one after the other. I had to remove myself from being around her because the choices she made were having a huge impact on me and my life, not for the greater good. She was my room mate and friend. I have the greatest respect for her and still love her with all my heart but her negativity was pulling me in. I left feeling terrible guilt that ate away at me because I was not able to help her. One day someone told me to let go of the guilt you can send her love and happiness even though you aren't near her. I recently heard she is doing better and living a great life.

I am not saying leave your friend but our lessons are our own. Until your friend is ready to understand and the lessons, events will keep pushing their way in. Show as much love and support as you can it will get better. Be the light in their life.

[Paybeskf]

That's awesome Manda, Sometimes we help so much that our friends never learn to help themselves. They use us as crutches to breed negativity which then just keeps them in that state. I, too, have a "friend"like this. She and I rarely talk. Usually she just emails me to complain about her horrible life, her drunk of a boyfriend and etc. I just say "Sorry you're having a hard time. Hope things get better." Because after years of coaching, she never once took any advice nor used it. I was just her "sounding board", still am.

Though we are still "friends" I no longer feed her by giving her my positive energy. Sometimes we just do this to save our own selves. Xo

[Gabbavnf]

Thank you, guys.

I constantly need to ground and clear myself when dealing with fearfull people. I see and understand that like attracts like, and seeing the world and all situations as "scary" is something I cannot deal with. Her motto (all the freakin time!): "It's scary."

The more I develop myself, the more I don't see things as scary. I see challenges to grow.

I think I need a salt bath to take away the bad vibes from my energy.
I will pray for this person and allow the lessons to take place.

[jhfsdhf]

I know a couple of people like this too, and also wish I could do something for them. Has anyone any positive experiences with helping psychically?

[bebeacc]

No, they have to do it themselves. Psychically, they drain you if you let them WW. We can suggest and that's it. From there on you need boundaries. I have a lot of posts about them here. Just type that word into the search.